By barbara.wilkey
This is a prologue to a novel I'm considering writing. Numerous people I've spoken with through the years have mentioned that I need to write down the experiences I've had raising four boys while being a military spouse. Basically, a geographic single parent. As I've spoken with many of you either through reviews or PM's, many have said 'you need to share that story with all of us.'
I've decided to start this project. It'll be a series of short stories, many will be shared with my granddaughters, some won't. The topics will be varied as I post them, depending on what my muse prompts me to write about at that time. I won't be posting them on a once-a-week basis, but whenever something pops into my head.
If I decide to eventually publish this, I'll group the similar topics together. One of the topics I'm considering is, as I've said, raising four boys. My boys were far from angels. They were honest to goodness rowdy boys, who enjoyed experimenting and exploring. My husband, Brian often mentioned they were a tag team match. One of them was always doing something they shouldn't. When we settled that problem, a different child would start. Something was always going on.
Another topic will be living abroad. We spent a total of eight years in Germany, not all at once. We got to Germany by way of the Army. Along with these stories will be stories of living within the military community and what it's about. It's a different lifestyle, with its ups and downs. I wouldn't change it.
If I choose to write about it, being a battered wife. It's a hard subject to discuss, but it's real. I struggled getting my freedom. Some of this story is discussed in my first novel, 'Two Tattered Hearts'. A huge surprise this is my only novel without a dog. I have often felt I need to go back and change that. LOL
A possible topic would be the death of my infant, Michael and how that impacted my faith.
I could even write about how being retired has affected my life or even getting older. I could also include stories from my former first graders.
These are just ideas I'm playing around with. I'm pretty sure I've forgotten some. I have no clue how this is going to turn out. I've put myself out there a little in writing my novels. I doubt any author can write without sharing a piece of themselves, but this will be the first time I've written about me. Well, I did when I wrote about my experiences going through breast cancer and chemotherapy. There may be a little more about that experience too and its lasting effects.
I hope some of you have found this interesting and will want to read. If not, I do understand. My life is probably boring. I often believe it is. Maybe I can find a way to liven it up. LOL
| Author Notes |
Thank you, Pinterest for the artwork. I may use it on every post. Not sure, yet.
Guess What??? This is only 500 words. Short for me. LOL There are things we don't want to happen, but we have to accept. Things we don't want to know, but we have to learn. And people we can't live without Thank you Pam(respa) for finding this for me. I found this and don't know who said it, but I like it and feel this is what I hope this novel of short stories is about. It sums it up really well. Thank you for dropping by and reading. I appreciate all commets. |
By barbara.wilkey
Eleanor
This is not at all how I had planned this going. I'm preparing a chapter explaining all the family members as the characters, so you'd know each one and have a feel for them personally.
Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately my just turned four-year-old granddaughter, Eleanor, her birthday was July 29th, gave me something to write about, and I couldn't pass it up.
This story was told to me by my son, Andrew, we FaceTime every Sunday afternoon. Andrew works at Barnes Jewish Christian Hospital in St. Louis, Missouri. He takes Eleanor to the daycare provided by the hospital for their employees every morning.
Andrew had stopped at a stoplight on the way to the hospital. Next to them a car had stopped, and a fluffy spotted dog stuck its head out an open backseat window.
Eleanor sat in her car seat and said, "Daddy, do you see the furry dog?"
"Yes, I see the dog."
"It looks like a nice cuddly dog."
"I'm sure it is a nice dog."
"Isn't that dog beautiful? I like dogs."
"I know you like dogs. You like all animals."
Eleanor was silent for a few moments. "Daddy, can we get a dog?"
"Hurry up light," Andrew muttered under his breath. "No Ellie, we can't get a dog."
"Why not? Dogs are nice."
"Yes, dogs are nice. Your mom and I both work. We're not home enough."
"Charlotte and I'd play with it all the time when we get home. Charlotte likes dogs, too."
"I know you both would. Dogs poop. I don't want to clean up dog poop."
"Dogs don't poop a lot."
"Yes, they do. Remember when we were at Grandma's, and you stepped in Harley's poop. It was hard to get out of the treads on your shoes. You wouldn't like that, would you?"
"When Harley visits here he doesn't poop in the backyard."
"Yes, he does. Grandma cleans it up."
Again, Eleanor got quiet for a few minutes, before she started again, "Daddy, in Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood, he asks the neighbors to help. That's what neighbors do. They help each other. We have really nice neighbors. Maybe they'd help clean up dog poop."
"El, it doesn't work that way. We do have nice neighbors, but they don't want to clean up our dog poop. Would you like to clean up their dog's poop?"
"No, but maybe our neighbors like dog poop."
As Andrew's telling this story, I'm laughing and then say, "Andrew, dogs make really good friends. You boys always had a dog growing up, remember? The girls need a dog."
"Mom, you're not helping!"
| Author Notes |
Andrew's wife, Katie is a biology college professor. They have another daughter, Charlotte, who is six and will start first grade in August.
Dogs will teach you unconditional love, if you can have that in your life, things won't be too bad. Robert Wagner This post is a little over 400 words Thank you google images for the photograph of a dog with it's head out the car window. |
By barbara.wilkey
Steven
It seems stories are presenting themselves whether I want them to or not. So, I'm guessing the introduction to my family members will be presented as they do something or I remember something that might, well, sort of maybe, be story worthy.
Lyenochka, one of my favorite authors on FanStory wrote a short story titled, 'Spirit's Nudge'. If you haven't read it, you should. It's well worth your time. This story reminded me of a prayer my son, Steven lifted up while having lunch at Arby's.
Steven, Andrew, one of his older brothers, and I went to Arby's for lunch. Steven was probably around five years old at the time. Andrew was somewhere around twelve years old. My older boys were already living on their own. My husband, Brian, was off doing Army things. We were stationed at Fort Campbell, Kentucky.
As I placed our order at the Arby's counter, I repeatedly asked Steven, "Are you positive you don't want any curly fries? I'm not coming up here again for curly fries."
"Mom, no curly fries today."
"Are you positive?"
This conversation was repeated over and over again, numerous times, but I didn't order him curly fries.
After Steven quickly finished his sandwich, he asked, "Mom, can I have some curly fries?"
Not at all happy, because of our earlier conversation, I reminded him, "You said you didn't want curly fries. I told you then I wasn't getting you any later."
With his sad puppy dog eyes and a full pout, he continued asking, now almost begging for curly fries.
In full mom mode, I set my mind to making sure I didn't give in and was going to teach this child a lesson. I didn't back down.
A little later Steven changed his question, "Mom, can I have a quarter for a large gumball?"
"Okay." I gave him a quarter.
Steven went up to the gumball machine and got his bubble gum. He danced back to our table. His face glowing and eyes twinkling. "Mom! It has a star! I get free curly fries!"
I gave in and allowed him to go to the counter to get his curly fries.
When Steven returned to the table, Andrew asked, "How did you get that gumball? I've tried and tried and never got one with the star."
Steven held up a curly fry. "I prayed for it."
Andrew shook his head. "You can't pray for curly fries."
I agreed. "You shouldn't pray for curly fries."
"It worked." Steven enjoyed his curly fries as Andrew, and I shook our heads.
| Author Notes |
Thank you Lyenochka for bring up this memory. Please read her post 'Spirit's Nudge."
This post is a little over 400 words Thank you google images for the photograph of a dog with it's head out the car window. |
By barbara.wilkey
Steven's Longhorn
I was searching for artwork to go with Sunday's post and was reminded of another Steven story. In this story, Steven is in high school, probably around fifteen years old.
One of Steven's household chores was to take out the garbage after dinner. He did and when he returned inside, he said, "Mom, you're not going to believe this but there's a longhorn steer in our front yard."
We live on top of a steep hill. On the back side of the hill is a limestone quarry where numerous deer live. I frowned. "Steven, I know you're a city boy, but it's a deer. I need to get you to the country more."
"Mom, it has horns."
"On deer they're called antlers."
"I know. You need to come outside and see for yourself."
We walked out the front door and in our oak tree grove was indeed a longhorn steer.
"Mom, I know a deer from a longhorn."
"You do." I called Brian, my husband from his den, "We have a longhorn in the front yard."
"What do you want me to do about it?" asked Brian.
"Maybe call the police. It's lost and probably belongs to someone."
Brian did call the police and was told, 'We don't do longhorn steers. Leave him alone and he'll go back home.'
The following morning, the longhorn was gone. I guess he did mosey his way home.
It is comforting to know my teenage city boy did know the difference between a longhorn steer and deer.
| Author Notes |
Texas is an open-range state. This means the ranchers aren't required to put up fences. Many do, but there are plenty of ranchers who choose not to have fences. Some counties have voted to not allow open ranges in recent years. My county has not.
As I looked at the photo, I realized this isn't a steer. You'll see the same photograph Sunday. This post has a little over 200 words. |
By barbara.wilkey
Chapter 4
I'm going back a few years with this story. Thank you, Iza Deleanu for the memory. The year was August of 1986. My husband, Brian, had joined the Army and left home the previous December for Fort McClellan, Alabama.
I remained in our hometown with three little boys. Steven wasn't born yet. Greg was eight years old; Jeff was six years old, and Andrew was one. I learned quickly what being a geographic single parent was all about, along with being thrown into being a military spouse.
During this indoctrination, my husband completed basic training, AIT (Advanced Individual Training,) and then he flew to Germany, our first duty station.
I discovered such things as waiting lists for housing. There was no housing for families in Germany, at this time, and there was a waiting list. Of course, I didn't understand that and wondered why he didn't send for us. All sorts of things went through my mind. Since we are still married, you can figure out that I learned about housing waiting lists. He arrived in Germany in June. We received orders to leave in September. We were separated for nine months.
My next problem was navigating the military system to figure out how to get household goods packed and sent to Germany. I, again, learned how to maneuver the military system. The secret, be more stubborn than they are. The old 'squeaky wheel gets oiled logic' works every time.
We were now ready to fly to Germany. Our first flight left from Quad Cities International Airport, in Moline, Illinois, and flew to Lambert-St. Louis International Airport. Our home was a small rural town in Illinois.
I was very lucky this flight was noneventful because Jeff, my ornery child, decided he wouldn't get on the plane. After all sorts of bribery, he decided he would get on the plane. If the flight had been bad, I wasn't sure I'd get him on the flight from St. Louis to Frankfurt, Germany.
Our flight from St. Louis to Frankfurt was on a MAC flight, Military Air Command. Our flight was to leave around ten o'clock that morning. Loading the plane with food, the catering door somehow broke. They had to have the replacement piece flown in from New York.
I'm now stuck in an airport with three young boys. Greg got sick to his stomach, Jeff was his usual pain in the butt, and Andrew had diarrhea. I had packed four outfits for him and plenty of diapers, but he ended up pooping all of them. I had to buy him new clothes and diapers at airport prices. Money was scarce at this time in our marriage. We waited in the airport for twelve hours. For real! My already strained marriage wasn't getting any better.
Finally, we loaded the plane. I see some hope. Nope, we got the pleasure of sitting on the tarmac for hours. It was really hot and crowded. Jeff, my wild child, chose to show his true colors and he had many.
The pilot announced we're ready for take-off. YEAH! But no, Andrew had tubes in his ears because of repeated ear infections. Guess what? Once the jet started rising so did the pressure in his ears and he screamed the entire flight, almost a full nine hours. My anger for my husband rose.
I did everything possible to get his ears to pop. I had weaned him and went back to nursing, hoping it would help. I tried a sucker. The stewardess came to help. I walked the aisles. Nothing worked. The good news is this was a MAC flight. The families had center seats. Active-Duty soldiers sat on the floor along the sides. As I walked, the soldiers had sympathy and made comments about their spouses having to go through the same thing. I began to understand the military community a lot better, but it still didn't get my husband out of trouble.
Andrew was still crying but we landed at Rhein-Main Air Base, just outside of Frankfurt, Germany. My husband was waiting and very happy to finally get his family back together.
I handed him the boys. "Here's your kids!" I searched for the window for the next flight back to the US. Brian did talk me into not making any hasty decisions. Long story short, I survived twenty-three years as a military spouse. This past Saturday we celebrated forty-seven years of marriage.
When we returned after our four-year tour of Germany, our seats on the flight were separated and I refused to sit with Andrew. Brian had to. The funny part was the other two boys, and I sat beside drunk National Guards men, who had just finished training. Probably another story about the return flight. LOL Andrew would've been the better choice. Be careful what you wish for.
| Author Notes |
Please read Iza Deleanu's story 'Stranded At Home'. It's worth your time and is what helped me remember this incident.
Thank you, Google Images, for the photo of a Mac flight. In the 1980's there were not seats on the side. The Active-Duty soldiers sat on the floor. This post is a little under 800 words. |
By barbara.wilkey
Chapter 5
For some reason, I'm in a military life mode. LOL Here's another memory that recently came to mind.
We had just returned to the US after our first Germany tour. It was July of 1990, and we took thirty days leave to visit with family.
We were at my parents' house and at the end of our leave, preparing for our next duty station, Fort Meade, MD. My husband, Brian, was in the basement working out. I heard him yell numerous profanities. I went downstairs to see what had happened. About 100,000 Iraqi troops had invaded Kuwait.
A little surprised at his outburst, What does this have to do with us? They're on the other side of the world. He went on to explain in detail that we'd probably go to war. To be honest, I felt Brian was overreacting.
The middle of August we arrived at Fort Meade, MD. Once on the military post, Brian reported to his unit and then we went to housing. The housing list was about six months long. Our next stop was the military motel, 'the guest house'. With military orders in hand, Brian secured us a room. I need to point out that Steven was not born yet. Greg, twelve years old, Jeff, ten years old, and Andrew, now four years old. The significance is, have you ever been contained to a two-bed motel room with three rambunctious boys. Probably not. The following day, Brian reported for duty. I found a playground within walking distance.
This continued for a little over a month. We searched for apartments on the economy, the surrounding towns, but found nothing available in our price range. Pretty sure we were stuck in this motel until we moved up on the housing list, which to be honest, I checked daily.
Then it got worse. Brian came home and announced, his unit was deploying to Saudi Arabia. Maybe some good news, his commanding officer was working with Housing trying to get us into housing before they deployed. Bad news, it didn't work.
While still in the guest house, Brian deployed to Saudi Arabia October 6, 1990. We remained in the guest house. A little good news. In September, I had a job interview for an assistance director of one of the Army's largest daycare centers and got the job. School had started, and Andrew would be able to go to the daycare with me.
Our life continued with the older boys going to school, Andrew in daycare, me working, and Brian now, deployed. We got into a routine. Of course, still in the guest house.
A few weeks after Brian had deployed, I got a call from housing. We were moved up on the housing list and now secured a three-bedroom house. Thank you, God. Bad news, I, once again had to contact the moving company and move our furniture into the house by myself. Got to love the military. It's character building, right?"
Okay, I got this. I can do it and did. We are now in a spacious three-bedroom house with a yard and a kitchen. GREAT!!
Communication with Brian was almost non-existent. His unit, 519th MP Battalion, was on the move. Phone calls only happened when they were in an area where they could use the phone and then the soldiers had to wait in long lines and the calls were timed so all soldiers could call home. Normally, I received a call every six weeks, but often it was longer.
Things continued like this for about a month, then the unthinkable happened. I went to get Brian's LES, Leave and Earnings Statement. It stated, 'no pay due'. What?? I called Brian's unit. They leave people behind who are supposed to assist the families. They couldn't help but asked me if Brian had given me power of attorney to go to finance and get it 'squared away'.
Brian had given me a very detailed and inclusive power of attorney. He thought every angle had been covered. Matter of fact, the unit lawyer who helped the soldiers write these questioned him on giving me that much power. He'd seen soldiers who had been taken advantage of by spouses left behind.
At finance I explained the problem in detail and proudly showed the lady my extensive power of attorney.
She kindly said, "Sorry, ma'am. This power of attorney doesn't specifically say 'finance'. She handed back the papers.
I searched through the papers and found the paragraph that said, I had the authority to handle all financial issues that came up. Mentioning this was a financial issue.
She said, "Ma'am, it doesn't state you any authority over your husband's LES."
"I don't want to make any changes to it. I want to address the 'no pay due' problem."
"That's easy. Your husband came into this office and took out the money in cash."
"Ma'am, my husband is in Saudi Arabia. Are you telling me he flew in, came into your office, without stopping to see his family, withdrew the money, and flew back to Saudi? That's impossible. My husband wouldn't do that. Besides what did my husband buy, a camel?"
"You never know what these young soldiers will do."
"My husband is not a young soldier. We have three children."
"Ma'am, I have a paper trail."
"I'd like to see this paper trail."
"You can't. You don't have the correct power of attorney." She hesitated. "Next?"
I left frustrated, but not defeated. My next plan was to contact our congressman, Dick Durbin. I did and things got resolved. Although I did get a phone call from my husband asking if I really contacted the congressman. I guess when soldiers are deployed news does make it to them, when the Army decides it's necessary and they can get phone privileges.
| Author Notes |
Not sure where this memory came from, but it popped into my mind.
Thank you, Google Images, for the map of Desert Shield/Desert Storm. This post is a little over 900 words. |
By barbara.wilkey
Chapter 6
I'm not sure why this memory came to mind. I think because of the length of my prayer list and the problems in some states due to hurricane issues.
This memory goes back to the summer of 2002. The Army had placed us at Fort Jackson, South Carolina. The waitlist for officer housing on post was about four years long. We were designated to be there for three years. We rented a house on the economy, in a small town close to Fort Jackson.
At this time our two older boys had graduated and were on their own. Greg was in the Army and stationed in Germany. Jeff was a chef in Missouri. Andrew was in high school and sixteen years old. Steven was still in elementary school and was nine. Yes, he's finally born.
Brian was deployed to Iraq. While at Fort Jackson, he deployed twice to Iraq.
Our house was in the Lugoff/Elgin school district, which was my boys first civilian school, having previously gone to school on Army posts. I wanted to make sure they got a good start in the schools so elected to remain home for at least a year before I went back to work.
I did take the youth director job at our small church. I got to set my own hours and both Andrew and Steven attended youth group.
The larger district this church belonged to supported a summer program called Salkehatchie. This program had different two-week programs throughout the summer where teenagers went to different poverty-stricken areas in South Carolina and helped families repair their homes.
During these two weeks the teens slept on the floor of the local church and different churches in the town supplied their meals. In the evenings, they held church activities.
This particular summer I signed Andrew up. Steven was too young. As I helped Andrew pack for these two weeks, he asked, "Mom, what did I do to make you so angry to send me to this?"
"Nothing. I think it'll be a great experience. Here's the deal. Go this year and if you hate it, you won't have to go next year. Deal?"
Long story short, Andrew had a great time. When he returned, our pastor asked him to describe his experience during church the following Sunday. He stood up and told this story.
'I was on my hands and knees with some sort of chisel tool tearing up a linoleum floor that already had holes in it revealing the dirt the house sat on. It was hot and humid. Sweat poured off me. Sorry, mom, but I was cussing you out for forcing me to go to this. I was angry, and I swung that chisel, and it broke a water pipe. I sat there and looked up. 'Okay, God. You have a sense of humor. I get it. The water's cool and I'm not hot anymore.
'The church district hadn't planned on replacing the water pipes, because of money, but now they were forced to. The pipes needed to be replaced anyway. This family got their new water pipes. God showed me how He could take this situation and turn it into something good.'
As a mom, I was proud of Andrew standing up and sharing this story. I wish I could have been there. I want to share another story about what also happened this summer.
As we ate lunch one day, sandwiches, Steven complained about only eating sandwiches. He wanted something else. Andrew got angry and said, "You're being a spoilt brat. The kids at the house I worked on didn't have any food. They went hungry. They'd be happy for a sandwich. After work, we weren't supposed to bring them back to the church, but did so they could eat."
That summer Andrew learned a lot and grew into the wonderful young man and father he is today. He volunteered to go back the following year. This time he helped re-shingle a house. Andrew was only one of the few who were strong enough to carry the bundle of shingles up a ladder.
| Author Notes |
Andrew played football and during the summer they had a weightlifting and conditioning program to keep the players in shape. His coached willingly supported Andrew attending this program.
This is the summer that I feel Christianity took hold in Andrew. I witness his growth. This post is about 700 words. |
By barbara.wilkey
Chapter 7
Many of you may remember reading about Eleanor, my four-year-old granddaughter attempting to talk her dad into a dog. They still don't have a dog. I've done my part in explaining to Andrew that my granddaughters need a dog but have gotten nowhere. LOL
Last Sunday on their way from the church service to the parking lot, Katie, Andrew's wife said, "I'm not used to it being so hot this late in October. Growing up in New Hampshire, we'd already have snow."
I need to pause here, with the story. Andrew, Katie and the girls live in St. Louis, Missouri. Katie's originally from New Hampshire.
Eleanor heard her mother and said, "Great, Mommy said we're getting a new hamster."
Andrew held Eleanor's hand in the parking lot, and said, "No, Ellie, Mom didn't say we're getting a hamster, she said New Hampshire, the state where she grew up."
"Daddy, she said we're stopping on the way home and getting a new hamster before it snows."
Charlotte, six years old, now got involved, "I think it's a great idea we get a hamster. Can it be black and white?" She tilted her head. "Ellie, I don't think it's going to snow today. It's too hot."
"It is going to snow, Mommy said it was. And I want a brown hamster," said Eleanor.
Katie frowned. "I didn't say it's going to snow. I said in New Hampshire it's probably already snowed."
"And nobody's getting a hamster," stated Andrew. He stared at Katie. "I think you need to weigh in on the hamster part."
"All I said is in New Hampshire it's probably snowing." Katie's eyes lit up as she teased, "You got this."
"See Daddy, Mommy said we're getting a new hamster. I want a brown one. We'd better hurry before it snows."
Frustration could be heard in Andrew's voice, "I don't got this, and we're not getting a hamster." He hesitated as he thought. "Besides LC will kill it."
Grandma break: LC, Little Cat, is their cat who is not opposed to killing anything that resembles a rodent or a bird. Bunnies are fair game too.
Both girls were securely in their car seats, but the hamster situation continued.
Charlotte said, "Daddy, I clearly heard Mommy said we are getting a hamster. Ellie and I will keep LC away from them. Besides they'll be in a cage. My teacher has a hamster in cage."
"There will be no hamster and no hamster cage. Katie, are you fixing lunch, or am I?"
"Maybe we need to grab something on the way home. Charlotte has to go to a birthday party this afternoon at one o'clock."
Andrew nodded. "Okay."
As Andrew parked the SUV to run into a sandwich shop, Eleanor yelled, "We're stopping for a hamster."
"We're stopping for lunch. We're NOT getting a hamster." He opened his car door. "I'll be right back with sandwiches, not a hamster."
As he the closed door, he heard Eleanor, "Mommy, remind Daddy to get the hamster."
*****
Charlotte giggled. "Maybe Daddy'll get two hamsters, a black and white one and a brown one. We'll each have one."
"Dad isn't getting any hamsters." Katie shook her head.
When Andrew returned to the SUV, with sandwiches, both girls frowned. Eleanor spoke first, "Are the hamsters in the bag? How can they breathe?"
"There are sandwiches in the bag. We aren't getting a hamster, and when did it become hamsters?"
"We need a black and white for me and a brown one for Ellie," explained Charlotte.
"Nobody's getting any color of a hamster. We aren't getting a hamster. Your mom's from New Hampshire, it's a state on the east coast. We took a vacation there two summers ago. Remember?"
"Is that where they had faces in rocks?" asked Charlotte.
"No that was this summer and it was the Black Hills in South Dakota. We went to New Hampshire two summers ago."
"I don't remember, but what do faces in rocks have to do with getting a hamster?" asked Eleanor.
Charlotte frowned. "I think it means we're not getting a hamster, right Mommy?"
"You're right," said Katie. "We're all too busy for a hamster. Your dad's right, LC would kill it. Nobody's home during the day to protect it."
*****
Inside their house, Andrew laid out the sandwiches as Katie got the place settings and said, "Girls, get to the table it's time for lunch."
"Since there's no hamsters in the bag, I'm not hungry," said Eleanor.
"Ah Dios, mio. I'm the only normal one in this family." Andrew sat and ate.
Katie kissed his cheek and took a bite of his sandwich. "I'm right there with you. Maybe we should've had boys."
He studied the missing bite from his sandwich. "Not according to the stories Mom tells. Right, Mom?"
"Right!"
| Author Notes |
I couldn't help but share this story. Andrew works at Barnes Jewish Christian Hospital and Katie is a biology professor at a university. They are both extremely busy between work and raising these two little girls.
I hope you enjoyed reading. This post is about 800 words. |
By barbara.wilkey
Chapter 8
My husband, Brian and I got tired of our ridiculously high cable bill, well over 250 dollars monthly, when we rarely watch TV. I'm the only one who regularly watches TV and when I do watch, believe it or not, it's the Hallmark Channel. Hopeless romantic. We got rid of our cable and Brian put on the roof an old-fashioned antenna. We still receive thirty or forty channels. Brian only watches 'Grit' on rare occasions. He likes the old westerns.
We can't get the Hallmark Channel with the antenna, so I stream it in the bedroom on my laptop. I have a cable hooked up and watch in on my TV screen. It only cost about $50.00 a year, not a month. Not a bad price for my movies. A lot less than cable.
This story happened a few nights ago. On my remote control the 'off button' and the 'source button' are next to each other. I turned off the TV and accidentally hit the 'source button'. I knew it happened and turned off the TV anyway. Once the TV was off it would correct itself, right? NOPE!!
The following evening, I turned on my TV and got all sorts of scribbling lines. I clicked the 'source button' because that's what had caused the problem, right? Nothing happened. Darn!!
I called Steven on Facetime and explained my problem very eloquently and in great detail.
When I've frustrated him, I get 'Mother'.
"Mother, where do I live?"
"In Victoria, but..."
"Mother, where do you live?" interrupted Steven.
"In Copperas Cove, but..."
"Mother, how far apart are we?"
"Three hours, but you're closer than your brothers."
"Mother, I know where my brothers live. I can't do anything three hours away."
I turned the phone and showed him the TV screen and then held up the remote control. "You just need to tell me what button to push. I can push buttons."
"Just start pushing buttons until you hit the right one."
"But you guys have forbidden me from pushing buttons, because..."
"We know why, because you get yourself into situations like this," interrupted Steven. "Now you're going to have to do it because I'm in Victoria."
"I think before it said HDMI, but I tried it, and nothing happened."
"You don't know what you watch your movies on?"
"No."
"Why not?"
"Because you set it up and I didn't pay any attention."
"Mother...."
"Yeah! I hit the right button. It's HDMI 2 in case you need it again."
"Mother?"
"Thank you for your help. I love you."
"Love you too. You're addicted to Hallmark. It's not healthy. You need to expand your movie watching. You can stream 'Netflix'."
"Love you, bye. I'm hanging up." I bet Charlotte and Eleanor don't have problems with remote controls.
*****
Another short Steven story. We visited with him over Labor Day. One thing Steven and I do together is go to HEB, a large Texas grocery chain.
I'm doing low carbohydrates, not Keto, but low carbs.
Steven needs to lose a few pounds. While grocery shopping, he said, "You'll be proud of me. Instead of Pop Tarts, I'm eating tortillas and peanut butter."
Happy to hear this, but not fully relating that message, I said, "You can get zero carb tortillas and zero added sugar peanut butter."
Steven stared at me. "Mother, do you need to sit in the car while I finish shopping?"
"I guess that's a no, right?"
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Steven is our youngest and he and I have always been close. Banter is part of our relationship. I was almost forty when I had him. The oldest, Greg, enlisted in the Army when Steven was two. Jeff left when Steven was three, and Andrew left when Steven was eight. Brian, being active military, was never home. For years it was Steven and me.
| Author Notes |
The Hallmark Channel also has drama and murder mysteries. Of course, there's always a romance involved. LOL
Steven is 31 years old, and single. He teaches High School Math. His school district is almost 68% Hispanic. It's close to the Gulf of Mexico, and fairly close to the border. Steven is bilingual. He will be coming home for Thanksgiving. |
By barbara.wilkey
Chapter 9
I've decided to go back a few years to around 1992 or 1993. I was pregnant with Steven, and we were stationed at Fort Meade, Maryland.
Desert Shield/Desert Storm had ended, but Brian was off doing Army things. To be honest I don't remember where he was during this incident.
Greg was around 15 years old, and I had asked him to water the flowers in the front yard. He did with only a minimal amount of grumping. He was a teenage male after all.
I opened the front door and said, "Don't forget to water the flowers out back."
I received a relatively small amount of grumping so went upstairs to put laundry away.
Walking downstairs a few minutes later, I noticed a trail of water from the front door, through the hallway, and through the living room. It continued through the dining room, and out the back door. Not being happy about this I stormed out the back door.
Greg must have noticed my unhappy expression but pretended to be innocent. "Is there a problem, Mom? You told me to water the flowers out back."
Doing my very best not to do a complete volcanic explosion, I asked, "Why is there a path of water through the house?"
"I'm watering the flowers out back."
"Maybe moving the hose to the back yard would've been the right way to handle this." My voice elevated, "Not bringing it through the house."
He pointed to the basketball court a few yards from our house. "There's a pickup game. I needed to hurry," he said very proud of his logic.
"Guess who's not playing basketball?"
"Would that be me?"
"After you clean up the mess in the house, I doubt you'll have time to play before dinner."
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Greg did grow up to be a very wonderful man. He was the oldest and one of my more peaceful boys. He enlisted in the Army right out of high school and did 26 years active Army before he retired. He's married. He and his wife, Nicole, have a 12-year-old daughter, Kinley. They live in Florida.
Greg did five tours of Iraq and has a 100 percent disability from his service. That being said, he's doing extremely well. My husband and I are beyond proud of him.
| Author Notes | Greg was pretty easy to parent. I haven't started on my wild child, Jeff, yet. |
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