Expectations
versus acceptance41 total reviews
Comment from Monica Chaddick
This is well written and so very true. On the other hand, as children become adults, they need to accept their parents for who they are, as well. Great job!
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This is well written and so very true. On the other hand, as children become adults, they need to accept their parents for who they are, as well. Great job!
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
Comment from Nicki.B
This is an excellent poem and I agree whole heartedly. I have always said it, the top two things kids need to thrive is love and confidence, shower kids with these and no matter what happens in between they will be okay. And I agree sometimes parents don't know how to let go of the control and don't always agree with the direction their child has taken later on, but we have to remain loving supportive role models and they still need us. Well done I really enjoyed it.
Best Wishes
Nicki
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This is an excellent poem and I agree whole heartedly. I have always said it, the top two things kids need to thrive is love and confidence, shower kids with these and no matter what happens in between they will be okay. And I agree sometimes parents don't know how to let go of the control and don't always agree with the direction their child has taken later on, but we have to remain loving supportive role models and they still need us. Well done I really enjoyed it.
Best Wishes
Nicki
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
Comment from Sue Smith
A very thought-provoking poem. It reads well, and I liked that you finish the lines on a strong word. There was just one place where that didn't happen. At the end of line 4 of the first verse I think it would be better to end the line after 'need'. As it is I felt the line petered out rather than ending on a strong note. But that's just my preference. I enjoyed reading it and it did make me stop and reflect on how as parents we need to accept our children for what they are
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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A very thought-provoking poem. It reads well, and I liked that you finish the lines on a strong word. There was just one place where that didn't happen. At the end of line 4 of the first verse I think it would be better to end the line after 'need'. As it is I felt the line petered out rather than ending on a strong note. But that's just my preference. I enjoyed reading it and it did make me stop and reflect on how as parents we need to accept our children for what they are
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Thank you for the helpful criticism. How about if I wrote acceptance is what they most of all need? That way I would end with a strong word as you suggest. I appreciate this help.
Thank you for the honest feedback.
Jesse
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Yes that would also work. Or just leaving at as 'acceptance is what they need.' It's a good, strong line either way
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I edited my poem with another idea I came up with, thanks for your help.
You are a gem.
Jesse
Comment from Cecilia A Heiskary
Jesse,
This is a great poem. Parents do need to let go of expectations. Sometimes it is too much and the child will learn to hate their parents.
When I grew up my mother never had expectations. I am a middle child and every thing they say is true. I have an older sister who was my mother's favorite, then an older brother and then me and my youngest sister. I am the only girl who graduated. I tried hard to get my mother's attention and make her proud of me but it never happened. Life was chaos and traumatic at times. I am a survivor and a warrior.
Well done my friend
Cecilia
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Jesse,
This is a great poem. Parents do need to let go of expectations. Sometimes it is too much and the child will learn to hate their parents.
When I grew up my mother never had expectations. I am a middle child and every thing they say is true. I have an older sister who was my mother's favorite, then an older brother and then me and my youngest sister. I am the only girl who graduated. I tried hard to get my mother's attention and make her proud of me but it never happened. Life was chaos and traumatic at times. I am a survivor and a warrior.
Well done my friend
Cecilia
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Thanks, my friend. I appreciate you sharing your heartbreaking story with me. I was a middle child too. Often neglected and could never do enough to please the family. So I can relate. Thanks for your kind appraisal of this poem.
Enjoy the evening.
Jesse
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Jesse,
Isn't it a shame how middle children are treated. It's a shame. Thanks for sharing my friend.
Cecilia
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Agreed. Middle kids have it rough.
Jesse
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It makes us survivors and warriors.
Comment from Karen Cherry Threadgill
Helen told me you were going in for knee surgery. Have you fully recovered from your other surgery yet? This poem had very good points. Many parents only see their child as an extension of themselves. Karen
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Helen told me you were going in for knee surgery. Have you fully recovered from your other surgery yet? This poem had very good points. Many parents only see their child as an extension of themselves. Karen
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Hello Karen.
I am as recovered as I can be and ready for the next upcoming surgery. It will happen on February 27, 2025. I have a couple of months to prepare and I am exercising and walking with a walker every chance I get.
You made some good points yourself, my friend. Some parents see their children as an extension of themselves.
Leaving no room for growth in different ways.
Take care, Karen.
Jesse
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I will keep you in my thoughts. I will be going to the doctor and probably doctors, after the first of the year. I will no doubt be passed around. I need a check up head to toe. I am not looking forward to it. They don't like that I don't want all their medicines. But, I happen to read the side affects. Some cause more harm, than offer good. :-)
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I understand. The advantages of my many medications outweigh the disadvantages. To each their own.
Please try to enjoy the upcoming year.
Jesse
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I always enjoy myself. regardless of the obstacles life throws at me , I am basically happy. It is a choice. I told my sister that I am going to start
back on pain medication. This winter has been pretty rough on me. And, since leaving my husband , most of my stress has decreased. I don't think I would need so much. But, It would be handy to have. We will see. Love to you and yours. Karen
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Yes, happiness is a choice.
Do what you see fit to do.
I know you will make the right decisions.
Your friend, Jesse
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I hope it all works out for you. Love to you and yours. Karen
Comment from Mike Stevens
Another fine write, Jesse......and it's so true, the approval and support of a parant can do wonders for a child's self confidence, just as it can work the opposite
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2024
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Another fine write, Jesse......and it's so true, the approval and support of a parant can do wonders for a child's self confidence, just as it can work the opposite
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2024
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Thanks, Mike. High expectations can work for or against a child as they mature into adults.
Enjoy the day, my friend.
Jesse
Comment from Pam (respa)
-Thanks for sharing the notes and poem, Jesse.
-Sorry your friends have this difficulty with their parents.
-Good opening verses about expectations.
-Children do need acceptance, and placing
expectations on them doesn't help the
parent child relationship, even as adults.
-The lucky ones might be able to resolve the issues.
-A very good closing verse and poem.
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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-Thanks for sharing the notes and poem, Jesse.
-Sorry your friends have this difficulty with their parents.
-Good opening verses about expectations.
-Children do need acceptance, and placing
expectations on them doesn't help the
parent child relationship, even as adults.
-The lucky ones might be able to resolve the issues.
-A very good closing verse and poem.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Thank you for your thoughtful comments, Pam. As always you define the poem analyze it then say what you like best about it.
You top them all as far as reviewing goes.
Have a nice weekend, my friend.
Jesse
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You are very welcome, Jesse, and I appreciate your reply very much. You have a good rest of your weekend, too.
Comment from dragonpoet
Hi Jesse,
This poem tells the effects of a parent putting their dreams for their children ahead of the child's own dreams. This happens with parents who want their children to follow in their footsteps no matter whether the child wants to or not. This cause fights and divisions as you say. Just getting encouraging your children to do their best is the best way to go.
Keep writing and stay healthy.
Happy Holidays
Joan
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Hi Jesse,
This poem tells the effects of a parent putting their dreams for their children ahead of the child's own dreams. This happens with parents who want their children to follow in their footsteps no matter whether the child wants to or not. This cause fights and divisions as you say. Just getting encouraging your children to do their best is the best way to go.
Keep writing and stay healthy.
Happy Holidays
Joan
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
Comment from tfawcus
Bravo! Such an important message. Accepting children for what they are, rather than trying to mould them into something they are not, is probably the most important advice that can be given to a parent.
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2024
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Bravo! Such an important message. Accepting children for what they are, rather than trying to mould them into something they are not, is probably the most important advice that can be given to a parent.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2024
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Hello Tony. Thank you so much for the six stars and for affirming my parental advice that acceptance holds the key to raising healthy well-adjusted adults. I appreciate your supportive encouragement very much, my friend.
Take care,
Jesse
Comment from ESOSTINE
Well written, my friend, Jesse. Parental expectations of the children puts a whole lot of undue pressure on the kids, which could get them confused and may stray. Our duty as parents is to guide them through childhood, and serve only as advisers when needed in their adulthood. Thanks for bringing this to the fore. Remain blessed
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Well written, my friend, Jesse. Parental expectations of the children puts a whole lot of undue pressure on the kids, which could get them confused and may stray. Our duty as parents is to guide them through childhood, and serve only as advisers when needed in their adulthood. Thanks for bringing this to the fore. Remain blessed
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
