Keeping My Priorities Straight
Traveling with my husband and friend causes conflict.22 total reviews
Comment from Ric Myworld
Well, I won't take sides, but I can certainly see Evan's side of things. Of course, I would, I'm one of those old boys who needs a little attention too. And don't give a darn about traveling or seeing the world. I've seen most of it, more than once. And would have much rather been home every time.
Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 17-Dec-2024
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Well, I won't take sides, but I can certainly see Evan's side of things. Of course, I would, I'm one of those old boys who needs a little attention too. And don't give a darn about traveling or seeing the world. I've seen most of it, more than once. And would have much rather been home every time.
Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 17-Dec-2024
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Thank you, Ric. I could see his point too. If you marry someone you should realize if they give you attention, they deserve the bulk of you attention and that is what he got. Friends don't have a high a status as the one you marry.
Comment from Wendy G
It was sad, I think, that your husband was so possessive on this special trip as you would never again have the opportunity to experience these amazing places and take photos. You accommdated all his needs, including his emotional needs, but he doesn't seem to have been flexible enough to meet your needs for that special time away. Maybe I'm being a bit harsh, but he just seems to be jealous of your spending time with Joy, even though apart from that first trip you hadn't seen each other for so many years, and he wasn't setting out to enjoy the time with you. just wanted you to himself. But you were very gracious and loving and reassuring to him. Very well written.
Wendy
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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It was sad, I think, that your husband was so possessive on this special trip as you would never again have the opportunity to experience these amazing places and take photos. You accommdated all his needs, including his emotional needs, but he doesn't seem to have been flexible enough to meet your needs for that special time away. Maybe I'm being a bit harsh, but he just seems to be jealous of your spending time with Joy, even though apart from that first trip you hadn't seen each other for so many years, and he wasn't setting out to enjoy the time with you. just wanted you to himself. But you were very gracious and loving and reassuring to him. Very well written.
Wendy
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Thank you, Wendy. I understood my husband's feeling. He wasn't someone who enjoyed traveling, but he realized I needed it and he wanted to be the one to do something special for me. Joy was out of line to push herself into our trip. I had a wonderful time, with or without taking pictures. Because he was doing something special for me, it was important that I made sure he enjoyed it as well.
Comment from Charles D Ezell
I know it can be heartbreaking to lose parents and their need of help before they pass on but you right about things and I applaud you for doing so. Evan was a good man. This is good, Beth.
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I know it can be heartbreaking to lose parents and their need of help before they pass on but you right about things and I applaud you for doing so. Evan was a good man. This is good, Beth.
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
Comment from lyenochka
You were sensitive to Evan's needs that that was the right thing to do. And perhaps you're right that it was how your marriage remained successful. You made sure Evan knew you loved him and put him first over your friendships. I never liked the women's conferences, women's social groups etc. To me, I'd rather focus on the couples' social events as long as we have each other.
Best wishes in the contest!
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You were sensitive to Evan's needs that that was the right thing to do. And perhaps you're right that it was how your marriage remained successful. You made sure Evan knew you loved him and put him first over your friendships. I never liked the women's conferences, women's social groups etc. To me, I'd rather focus on the couples' social events as long as we have each other.
Best wishes in the contest!
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
Comment from lancellot
Interesting story. I guess, there are things some couples learn later in life. And it shows how important communication is, and it best to do that up front and not wait. But things all worked out in the end. That's what matters.
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Interesting story. I guess, there are things some couples learn later in life. And it shows how important communication is, and it best to do that up front and not wait. But things all worked out in the end. That's what matters.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
Comment from Cecilia A Heiskary
Beth,
What a great story traveling all over the place. Yes, men are big babies and don't like to share us. It's all or nothing. My husband is the same way and sometimes it drives me crazy. I'm glad you got to travel with friends though.
Well done my friend
Cecilia
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Beth,
What a great story traveling all over the place. Yes, men are big babies and don't like to share us. It's all or nothing. My husband is the same way and sometimes it drives me crazy. I'm glad you got to travel with friends though.
Well done my friend
Cecilia
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
Comment from jim vecchio
Were I the judge, you'd get the prize! 1995 was a bad year for me, too. My father died in front of me on Dec. 12, and my mom died on Dec. 26. I 'm a lot like Evan. I hated sharing my wife with anyone, even her caregiver before her death.
Thank you for a remarkable true experience.
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Were I the judge, you'd get the prize! 1995 was a bad year for me, too. My father died in front of me on Dec. 12, and my mom died on Dec. 26. I 'm a lot like Evan. I hated sharing my wife with anyone, even her caregiver before her death.
Thank you for a remarkable true experience.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
Comment from Begin Again
Men can be like little children sometimes and it's funny how we are expected to focus our lives on them. I too preferred to be with my husband, but I also enjoyed friends. Especially when I was working so hard and raising kids. It looks like you must have worked things out and that's good.
Smiles, Carol
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Men can be like little children sometimes and it's funny how we are expected to focus our lives on them. I too preferred to be with my husband, but I also enjoyed friends. Especially when I was working so hard and raising kids. It looks like you must have worked things out and that's good.
Smiles, Carol
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
Comment from Wayne Fowler
Hilarious! I'm afraid I'm with Joy. But you had to keep your priorities straight, for sure.
In 1995, I had just taken on a new job, when my mom had a stroke and a heart attack in Mississippi. - You don't need the comma after 'job'. Actually you don't really need the other one either.
The two of us met at an air-terminal in Philadelphia, and spent - You don't need this comma.
They tend to be sensitive creatures and need to feel special. - Uh, wish I knew how to get away with feeling special! (grinny face here)
Good luck in the contest.
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Hilarious! I'm afraid I'm with Joy. But you had to keep your priorities straight, for sure.
In 1995, I had just taken on a new job, when my mom had a stroke and a heart attack in Mississippi. - You don't need the comma after 'job'. Actually you don't really need the other one either.
The two of us met at an air-terminal in Philadelphia, and spent - You don't need this comma.
They tend to be sensitive creatures and need to feel special. - Uh, wish I knew how to get away with feeling special! (grinny face here)
Good luck in the contest.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
Yes, I think I can understand why Evan was more than a little miffed by this third party, especially in the early days of your marriage. Joy didn't quite get it, did she? As ever, another engaging chapter in your life in which your free spirit is being checked somewhat. Well done, Beth. Take care Debbie
When he had to (walk) back to the bus alone
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Yes, I think I can understand why Evan was more than a little miffed by this third party, especially in the early days of your marriage. Joy didn't quite get it, did she? As ever, another engaging chapter in your life in which your free spirit is being checked somewhat. Well done, Beth. Take care Debbie
When he had to (walk) back to the bus alone
Comment Written 13-Dec-2024