Expectations
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Comment from karenina
Such sound wisdom here, Jesse! Expectations frame a child's development according to the parent's needs...
These can be either too high, thus thwarting the child's ambitions, as he/she is doomed to fall short...
Or, equally as damaging, parents projecting low expectations create a dependence that sends a message the child could not possibly achieve what they wish.
The greatest gift one can give another is to accept them as they are. Love them unconditionally. Respect their freedom to soar or crash, and be there for them in both instances!
Only then can a child thrive. Only then can he/she explore who they authentically are and know to their marrow that is precisely, perfectly fine!
How many spirits have been crushed by parental expectations?
One would be too many!
Very well written, my friend.
Karenina
reply by the author on 21-Dec-2024
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Such sound wisdom here, Jesse! Expectations frame a child's development according to the parent's needs...
These can be either too high, thus thwarting the child's ambitions, as he/she is doomed to fall short...
Or, equally as damaging, parents projecting low expectations create a dependence that sends a message the child could not possibly achieve what they wish.
The greatest gift one can give another is to accept them as they are. Love them unconditionally. Respect their freedom to soar or crash, and be there for them in both instances!
Only then can a child thrive. Only then can he/she explore who they authentically are and know to their marrow that is precisely, perfectly fine!
How many spirits have been crushed by parental expectations?
One would be too many!
Very well written, my friend.
Karenina
Comment Written 20-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 21-Dec-2024
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Hello Karenina.
You nailed it on the head when you wrote that some parents project low expectations creating dependence on their parents where they don't believe they can achieve anything worthwhile in their life.
That's me to a tee!
I had no idea how much this poem was speaking to me as well as to everyone else.
Thanks, my friend, for helping me grow.
Your kind and thoughtful words mean the world to me.
Jesse
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What an honor to know you!
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The feelings are mutual. I feel the same way, my friend.
Comment from Raul1
I don't think I have any errors in this poem. It is well written and it has meaning of sometimes what life is all about. I like how you expressed of learning from life itself. But, perhaps give it a happy ending by giving advice to someone who is having a tough time. Overall, it's very good!
reply by the author on 17-Dec-2024
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I don't think I have any errors in this poem. It is well written and it has meaning of sometimes what life is all about. I like how you expressed of learning from life itself. But, perhaps give it a happy ending by giving advice to someone who is having a tough time. Overall, it's very good!
Comment Written 16-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 17-Dec-2024
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The happy ending is implied in the last verse. Thanks for the six stars and encouraging review.
Have a good evening.
Jesse
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Okay, my mistake! You're welcome!
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Happy Holidays!
Comment from Elizabeth Delaney
Just beautiful!
It's a very powerful and relatable message, something a whole generation can agree with!
It's an unfortunate truth especially surrounding the decay that comes with bending to expectations
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Just beautiful!
It's a very powerful and relatable message, something a whole generation can agree with!
It's an unfortunate truth especially surrounding the decay that comes with bending to expectations
Comment Written 16-Dec-2024
Comment from Bill Schott
This poem, Expectations, reminds the readers that the tiny eyes that watch us are learning what to do and how to value others. Losing ground with a parent can feel like having an enemy instead of a friend.
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This poem, Expectations, reminds the readers that the tiny eyes that watch us are learning what to do and how to value others. Losing ground with a parent can feel like having an enemy instead of a friend.
Comment Written 15-Dec-2024
Comment from Pearl Edwards
I totally a not agree with what you say here, Jesse. We need to show our children support not put our expectations onto them. Although when my kids were at high school, one very bright daughter was pushed into a course by her teachers not by us. That didn't work either. Well written and well said.
cheers.
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I totally a not agree with what you say here, Jesse. We need to show our children support not put our expectations onto them. Although when my kids were at high school, one very bright daughter was pushed into a course by her teachers not by us. That didn't work either. Well written and well said.
cheers.
Comment Written 15-Dec-2024
Comment from Gloria ....
Very good observation here. Expectations can be particularly noxious if they are socially imposed which I expect many if not most are, and if a parent and/or adult child cannot overcome the chasm the pain can be enormous.
Much enjoyed and thank you for sharing.
Gloria
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2024
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Very good observation here. Expectations can be particularly noxious if they are socially imposed which I expect many if not most are, and if a parent and/or adult child cannot overcome the chasm the pain can be enormous.
Much enjoyed and thank you for sharing.
Gloria
Comment Written 15-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2024
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Hello Gloria.
You have a provocative way of putting what is important in this poem.
I admire your way of writing and saying exactly what you mean.
Thanks for the honor of six stars and encouraging review.
Your positive feedback means so much to me.
I appreciate you stopping by.
Jesse
Comment from Sergeant F. Dare
Good day sir
I like this poem a lot. It is hard for parents to see their children grow up, isn't it? I'eve had this experience with my own parents. Good writing, and keep up the good work!
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2024
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Good day sir
I like this poem a lot. It is hard for parents to see their children grow up, isn't it? I'eve had this experience with my own parents. Good writing, and keep up the good work!
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2024
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Thanks for the encouraging six stars and awesome review. I am glad you can relate with this experience with your own parents. Thanks for your kind words.
Jesse
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Comment from Nicki Nance
A lovely rendering of astute observations and sound advice.Thank pu for sharing your thoughtful words. All tooz few parents think these conflicts through.
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A lovely rendering of astute observations and sound advice.Thank pu for sharing your thoughtful words. All tooz few parents think these conflicts through.
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
Comment from Ulla
Yes, Jesse, I couldn't agree more. Parents needs to accept their children for what they are. If not they could cause immeasurable harm. For many it's a hard lesson to learn. Thanks for sharing this wonderful poem and its message. Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Yes, Jesse, I couldn't agree more. Parents needs to accept their children for what they are. If not they could cause immeasurable harm. For many it's a hard lesson to learn. Thanks for sharing this wonderful poem and its message. Ulla:)))
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Thanks, Ulla, for this dynamic review. You cover the gambit in just a few words and I like your style of writing. Thanks for the positive feedback.
Have a nice weekend.
Jesse
Comment from LJbutterfly
Your message is accurate and meaningful. From birth, caring parents develop expectations. Some work hard to insure a child grows up and functions according to the parent's expectations. Sincere parents should be thankful their child found peace, acceptance and joy in being who they were meant to be. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Your message is accurate and meaningful. From birth, caring parents develop expectations. Some work hard to insure a child grows up and functions according to the parent's expectations. Sincere parents should be thankful their child found peace, acceptance and joy in being who they were meant to be. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Comment Written 14-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 14-Dec-2024
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Encouraging the child to become who they were meant to be is the job of the parent. Sincere parents are the best at what they do for their children.
Thanks for the positive feedback.
Jesse
