Ease My Pain
For my friend, Gaye150 total reviews
Comment from luna
My dear, I'm so glad that you wrote about this. I won't go into great detail in this review, but we have a very similar situation going on in that my ex-husband married my best friend and next door neighbor since I was two years old and I've gone through many trials and tribulations in dealing with the accompanying emotions. Yet when illness strikes, as it did in my case as well, the ill will seems to evaporate - I know exactly how you are feeling and want to let you know that I support your right to write about this here on FanStory.
Writing about personal matters such as this not only is cathartic, but may help someone else who is going through the same situation. I would ask those who question why it is necessary to post a personal work such as this to give reason as to why it is necessary for authors to post graphic stories of rape and abuse - yet they are posted every day and are well received. We are free to post anything we please on this site. If someone does not want to read our personal issues, there is a "skip" button that is easily pressed.
May you get through this situation with the help of your God, I know you rely heavily upon Him. You'll be in my prayers, dear Jani.
Love,
Jeni *smile*
reply by the author on 11-Jan-2011
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My dear, I'm so glad that you wrote about this. I won't go into great detail in this review, but we have a very similar situation going on in that my ex-husband married my best friend and next door neighbor since I was two years old and I've gone through many trials and tribulations in dealing with the accompanying emotions. Yet when illness strikes, as it did in my case as well, the ill will seems to evaporate - I know exactly how you are feeling and want to let you know that I support your right to write about this here on FanStory.
Writing about personal matters such as this not only is cathartic, but may help someone else who is going through the same situation. I would ask those who question why it is necessary to post a personal work such as this to give reason as to why it is necessary for authors to post graphic stories of rape and abuse - yet they are posted every day and are well received. We are free to post anything we please on this site. If someone does not want to read our personal issues, there is a "skip" button that is easily pressed.
May you get through this situation with the help of your God, I know you rely heavily upon Him. You'll be in my prayers, dear Jani.
Love,
Jeni *smile*
Comment Written 11-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 11-Jan-2011
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Thank you very much, Jeni. I always love hearing from my dear friend! :-)
Hugs,
Jan
Comment from Belinda
Hi, Janilou, this is fantastic, the more so because it is biographical. I think you have the right to be angry. Don't be too hard on yourself, and let the years in between go away without feeling guilty. However, feeling remorse, and being friends with her again, is so much better. Cheers to you.
reply by the author on 11-Jan-2011
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Hi, Janilou, this is fantastic, the more so because it is biographical. I think you have the right to be angry. Don't be too hard on yourself, and let the years in between go away without feeling guilty. However, feeling remorse, and being friends with her again, is so much better. Cheers to you.
Comment Written 11-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 11-Jan-2011
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Thank you very much. Glad you enjoyed it.
Jan
Comment from jackiesmuse
I admire your courage to share this touching story. I have a similar situation in my life but I know I would chicken out and turn it into fiction. I'm glad you didn't. Your experience helps me as I heal. This was a smooth read and I saw no SPAG or anything that needed an edit. Really nice write. I would recommend it. :-) Jackie
reply by the author on 11-Jan-2011
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I admire your courage to share this touching story. I have a similar situation in my life but I know I would chicken out and turn it into fiction. I'm glad you didn't. Your experience helps me as I heal. This was a smooth read and I saw no SPAG or anything that needed an edit. Really nice write. I would recommend it. :-) Jackie
Comment Written 11-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 11-Jan-2011
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Thank you very much. I do appreciate your kind words.
Jan
Comment from suneagle
Well written, Jan. However, I honestly wonder why people feel they have to share these sort of revelations with the world. Wouldn't a simple letter to Gaye be sufficient? It seems to contradict the mention of "Personal" in the Author Notes.
was their [stepmother] when you married my ex.
A decade passed and still you tried to re-connect with me.
(The words "with me" seem superfluous and could be deleted.)
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Well written, Jan. However, I honestly wonder why people feel they have to share these sort of revelations with the world. Wouldn't a simple letter to Gaye be sufficient? It seems to contradict the mention of "Personal" in the Author Notes.
was their [stepmother] when you married my ex.
A decade passed and still you tried to re-connect with me.
(The words "with me" seem superfluous and could be deleted.)
Comment Written 10-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Thank you so much for pointing out the errors which I will be correcting in a moment. You make a valid point. Why indeed? Well, I guess because I wanted to throw it out there and see what the reaction was, before I passed it on to Gaye, and because there is a Letters & Diary category for work here. :-)
Receiving a five star review from you along with the words 'well written' is an honor. I really appreciate it.
Thanks, Les.
Jan
Comment from JeffreyStone
Touching and wonderfully written. It is painful to lay all those details before "strangers", but perhaps the cathartic value makes it easier. This engrossing "confession" deserves special recognition. JeffreySTone
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Touching and wonderfully written. It is painful to lay all those details before "strangers", but perhaps the cathartic value makes it easier. This engrossing "confession" deserves special recognition. JeffreySTone
Comment Written 10-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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I am honored to read your kind words and the six stars is a wonderful surprise. Thank you so very much.
Jani
Comment from 1ClosetWriter
Wonderful story! Thanks for sharing. I find it ironic that I've had many thoughts lately regarding a childhood friendship that dissolved due to lack of trust. Thank you for getting my wheels turning again. I don't know if it will be a written piece or a letter to my old friend.
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Wonderful story! Thanks for sharing. I find it ironic that I've had many thoughts lately regarding a childhood friendship that dissolved due to lack of trust. Thank you for getting my wheels turning again. I don't know if it will be a written piece or a letter to my old friend.
Comment Written 10-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Well, bless your heart. I hope you do reach out to your old friend. Thank you so much for sharing and for your kind words.
Jani
Comment from NadineM
Wow! This is incredibly painful for you to live and write. This story is well-written and saturated with heartfelt emotion.
In her heart, your friend must understand why you couldn't be her friend back then. But now, you've had time to accept that she is with your ex and you too have moved on and remarried. Today, you're both in a different place in your lives. The focus is now on life and death. Many times our attitudes toward people change when they become ill. What's really important in the situation is now apparent. Your friend might think you didn't care about her all these years; truth be told, you cared very much about her, perhaps too much! Thus the reason you couldn't be close then.
This will be interesting to see how things develop. Best wishes. Has she read this yet? Has your ex?
Thanks for sharing this with me.
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Wow! This is incredibly painful for you to live and write. This story is well-written and saturated with heartfelt emotion.
In her heart, your friend must understand why you couldn't be her friend back then. But now, you've had time to accept that she is with your ex and you too have moved on and remarried. Today, you're both in a different place in your lives. The focus is now on life and death. Many times our attitudes toward people change when they become ill. What's really important in the situation is now apparent. Your friend might think you didn't care about her all these years; truth be told, you cared very much about her, perhaps too much! Thus the reason you couldn't be close then.
This will be interesting to see how things develop. Best wishes. Has she read this yet? Has your ex?
Thanks for sharing this with me.
Comment Written 10-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Thank you so much, Nadine. I sent it to her today. She is in hospital right now, so I'm not sure when I'll hear back from her. I really appreciate your kind and wise words, and yes, you are correct -- I can't even read this without crying.
Many thanks,
Jani
Comment from sweetwoodjax
this is very well written with good form, good flow, good words that speak about the pain that won't go away just like that, the memories that bring it all boiling to the surfact. i think it was probably cathartic for you to write this
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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this is very well written with good form, good flow, good words that speak about the pain that won't go away just like that, the memories that bring it all boiling to the surfact. i think it was probably cathartic for you to write this
Comment Written 10-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Thank you very much. It certainly was.
Jani
Comment from Mountainstar2
Bless you for telling this very heartbreaking story of love for two sisters. It breaks my heart to read this story and knowing she is sick. God works in so many different ways, and I feel has this time to bring your love and friendship back to you both...
I truly enjoyed reading this story, which touched my heart deeply as I read with tears in my eyes.
This story is written very well with deep feeling and meaning of true words, which touches the ole' heart and to melt the colder one, ever. Wording content is very loving, with pain to bring out the true love of the heart for two friends. I thank you for sharing this story with us today. I sure do hope your friend improves and enjoys the rest of the time you both have together. Lif is too short to waste it on anything. Blessings to you both...MOuntainstar2..
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Bless you for telling this very heartbreaking story of love for two sisters. It breaks my heart to read this story and knowing she is sick. God works in so many different ways, and I feel has this time to bring your love and friendship back to you both...
I truly enjoyed reading this story, which touched my heart deeply as I read with tears in my eyes.
This story is written very well with deep feeling and meaning of true words, which touches the ole' heart and to melt the colder one, ever. Wording content is very loving, with pain to bring out the true love of the heart for two friends. I thank you for sharing this story with us today. I sure do hope your friend improves and enjoys the rest of the time you both have together. Lif is too short to waste it on anything. Blessings to you both...MOuntainstar2..
Comment Written 10-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Amen to that. Bless your heart. You have made my day with your rating and comments. I am blessed to read your words.
Hugs,
Jani
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You are very welcome for the review of the sixth star. I have a friend like that also. Blessings...MS2..
Comment from Shirley McLain
What a wonderful story as well as heartbreaking. Your story is well written with so much emotion and it drags the reader right into it. You did a great job.
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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What a wonderful story as well as heartbreaking. Your story is well written with so much emotion and it drags the reader right into it. You did a great job.
Comment Written 10-Jun-2010
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2010
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Thank you so much. If only it wasn't true. :-(
I deeply appreciate the time you took to review.
Jani