The Tres Amigas
Viewing comments for Chapter 5 "Tres Amigas - March 1, 2015"A weekly advice column
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Comment from ExperiencingLiphe
I honestly don't think the first person is honoring their vows they took. I couldn't imagine leaving my other half for any reason. I look forward to bickering and doing old people stuff when we get that old. If something changes and I don't want that we need to re-evaluate things again to see what happened and what we need to do differently to make things better. Old people sex kinda grosses me out but I'll say this, you can still cuddle and pick on each other (in a fun way) that will show your love for one another.
When you ask my grandpa what something costs all he will say is: It costed too much. He will never say a number or what too much is but it costed too much. If he got a good deal he'll say he didn't pay enough. I agree, let him know upfront that you don't do it anymore. I'd tell him that I wouldn't necessarily say the price of the item but that I wouldn't agree with him. I also think it's a man thing
I think we all need to understand that when you say no you really don't need an explanation. I would brace yourself because once you stop paying for things they might show resistance and not want to talk to you for awhile but in the end they will get over it and it will be worth it in the end
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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I honestly don't think the first person is honoring their vows they took. I couldn't imagine leaving my other half for any reason. I look forward to bickering and doing old people stuff when we get that old. If something changes and I don't want that we need to re-evaluate things again to see what happened and what we need to do differently to make things better. Old people sex kinda grosses me out but I'll say this, you can still cuddle and pick on each other (in a fun way) that will show your love for one another.
When you ask my grandpa what something costs all he will say is: It costed too much. He will never say a number or what too much is but it costed too much. If he got a good deal he'll say he didn't pay enough. I agree, let him know upfront that you don't do it anymore. I'd tell him that I wouldn't necessarily say the price of the item but that I wouldn't agree with him. I also think it's a man thing
I think we all need to understand that when you say no you really don't need an explanation. I would brace yourself because once you stop paying for things they might show resistance and not want to talk to you for awhile but in the end they will get over it and it will be worth it in the end
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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I can understand asking for help is a REAL emergency but to constantly expect someone to pick up the tab or bail you out is just not right. If they resist, all I can say is "good riddance."
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I agree. One of the reasons I didn't want a bridal/bachorette shower is cuz I didn't want people to have to pay for it, I certainly didn't want to pay for it so I just decided not to have one. That's just me though.
Comment from Phyllis Stewart
Good answers today to bizarre questions. Good thing I'm not an amiga, bec I'd tell them all to buy or rent a brain. Hard to believe the dumb things people will do and put up with. I don't think advice will help these people, altho brain transplants might. LOL! :)
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Good answers today to bizarre questions. Good thing I'm not an amiga, bec I'd tell them all to buy or rent a brain. Hard to believe the dumb things people will do and put up with. I don't think advice will help these people, altho brain transplants might. LOL! :)
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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It is amazing how so many people slowly get them selves into a absurd situation and then have no idea of how to get out of it. I am not even sure a brain would be of much help.
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LOL!
Comment from Dawn Munro
Well, nothing has changed - this is technically perfect - not at all surprising to me. I feel like there's not a lot more I can say to make my review worth anything - I LOVE this column!
The only thing I might suggest is to try, when sorting through and choosing which letters you will use, to keep up the variety so that you are appealing to the widest market possible.
For example, this week's column is about three married couples and their difficulties - (IF there was a problem presented from a single guy or gal) I'd be tempted to choose his or hers as the third 'letter' choice. Though the problems are varied that the married couples are presenting to you, it's married couples who'll be more interested in reading this week's column. Including a single person's viewpoint keeps that audience coming back.
But as I said, it's wonderful writing anyway, and a great idea to run this by your 'audience' here, IMO. :)
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Well, nothing has changed - this is technically perfect - not at all surprising to me. I feel like there's not a lot more I can say to make my review worth anything - I LOVE this column!
The only thing I might suggest is to try, when sorting through and choosing which letters you will use, to keep up the variety so that you are appealing to the widest market possible.
For example, this week's column is about three married couples and their difficulties - (IF there was a problem presented from a single guy or gal) I'd be tempted to choose his or hers as the third 'letter' choice. Though the problems are varied that the married couples are presenting to you, it's married couples who'll be more interested in reading this week's column. Including a single person's viewpoint keeps that audience coming back.
But as I said, it's wonderful writing anyway, and a great idea to run this by your 'audience' here, IMO. :)
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Since this is still in its infancy, we can only work with the questions provided. If you have one, please, please submit it. We are always looking for new and fresh questions. I am so pleased you are enjoying this.
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I am enjoying it immensely, and I'll try to think of some questions. *smile*
Comment from seaglass
All of these are questions that I see playing out in people I know. I think all responses were quite good in this round. Good job.
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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All of these are questions that I see playing out in people I know. I think all responses were quite good in this round. Good job.
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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I am impressed with the questions we have been getting. They are great and definitely make us think.
Comment from Margaret Snowdon
I really enjoy these questions and answers. Most interesting to hear others views.
I wish the only habit my husband had was lying about the cost
of things, but he has numerous aggravating ways - and what I do to overcome them, is to count all the good points about him that way out-number the bad - if you've already tried the discussing and the arguing - then it's the only way if you love him.
Margaret
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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I really enjoy these questions and answers. Most interesting to hear others views.
I wish the only habit my husband had was lying about the cost
of things, but he has numerous aggravating ways - and what I do to overcome them, is to count all the good points about him that way out-number the bad - if you've already tried the discussing and the arguing - then it's the only way if you love him.
Margaret
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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I agree, sometimes it is best to just give in and ignore the 'small' faults.
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I don't like him to be too perfect anyway - and I have faults also. M
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Don't we all?
Comment from barbara.wilkey
I so enjoy reading this advice column page. It makes me smile and even angry sometimes. I may write in myself. I do have an issue. Keep up the good work.
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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I so enjoy reading this advice column page. It makes me smile and even angry sometimes. I may write in myself. I do have an issue. Keep up the good work.
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Definitely submit your question, we may reword it and will always keep your identity a secret. I am so pleased you are enjoying this.
Comment from thee-name
Excellent chapter. Seen no mistakes. Writing was interesting.
Should soul mates do the honorable thing and stay true to their marriage vows, even though it means denying themselves what is truly in their hearts?
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Excellent chapter. Seen no mistakes. Writing was interesting.
Should soul mates do the honorable thing and stay true to their marriage vows, even though it means denying themselves what is truly in their hearts?
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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A vow is a vow and should not be broken. If you are with someone and find yourself wandering, you should do the right thing and end the relationship before acting upon the emotions.
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THANK YOU!
Comment from c_lucas
Pay your fair share and leave early. This is a very interesting experience. It would be noteworthy if you showed some positive results. Your post has good imagery.
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Pay your fair share and leave early. This is a very interesting experience. It would be noteworthy if you showed some positive results. Your post has good imagery.
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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That would be nice. Maybe some will get back to us and tell us how our advice helped...or not.
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You're welcome, Sasha. Charlie
Comment from Jennpenn
These are all good, timely issues that most readers have encountered at one time or another. I, too, have a soul mate, and through the years it has been a wonderful, spiritual connection that we have maintained. I even tapped into that special bond for my first novel--and THAT relationship hijacked the plot! But it's a true, heartfelt connection. I DO believe that in many ways it can be as important as other relationships in our lives--if we take it for what it is, and not try to turn it into something morally inappropriate!
As for the lies in public, my mother-in-law does this all the time! God bless her, she's always exaggerating a story. My husband has kindly disagreed with her in public, and that has reigned her in, so...good advice there! It really does work!
I thoroughly enjoy this column. I think there's a great need for it.
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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These are all good, timely issues that most readers have encountered at one time or another. I, too, have a soul mate, and through the years it has been a wonderful, spiritual connection that we have maintained. I even tapped into that special bond for my first novel--and THAT relationship hijacked the plot! But it's a true, heartfelt connection. I DO believe that in many ways it can be as important as other relationships in our lives--if we take it for what it is, and not try to turn it into something morally inappropriate!
As for the lies in public, my mother-in-law does this all the time! God bless her, she's always exaggerating a story. My husband has kindly disagreed with her in public, and that has reigned her in, so...good advice there! It really does work!
I thoroughly enjoy this column. I think there's a great need for it.
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Thanks, I am so pleased you could relate to some of the questions and seem to approve of the answers too.
Comment from patcelaw
Anna and Abby could not have given such good advice as the three of you have given. I am always impressed with the wisdom of the column. Bravo gals. Patricia
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Anna and Abby could not have given such good advice as the three of you have given. I am always impressed with the wisdom of the column. Bravo gals. Patricia
Comment Written 01-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2015
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Sometimes the questions requires some serious thought but at the same time they are fun to respond to.