Remembering Yesterday
Viewing comments for Chapter 109 "Beginning the Year of 1988"A widow's journey into her relationship with her
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Comment from Mistydawn
If it isn't one child it's another, that's usually how it goes. I'm glad you and Connie are getting along better. Now to get Christi back on the right path. I'm glad to hear Carol and Glen are doing so well. That Don got passing grades. Your story is well-written, interesting from start to finish. I look forward to reading more.
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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If it isn't one child it's another, that's usually how it goes. I'm glad you and Connie are getting along better. Now to get Christi back on the right path. I'm glad to hear Carol and Glen are doing so well. That Don got passing grades. Your story is well-written, interesting from start to finish. I look forward to reading more.
Comment Written 14-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you for the review and nice comments. I'm glad you like reading it.
Beth
Comment from barbara.wilkey
In 1988, we were stationed in Germany. It's good to down memory lane with you because it makes me remember what we were doing.
Her best friend from the academy was still Valerie, which caused us to have some concern, but we couldn't pick her friends for her. (You can omit 'for her' it's redunit.)
I had a every night. (not sure what you're saying)
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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In 1988, we were stationed in Germany. It's good to down memory lane with you because it makes me remember what we were doing.
Her best friend from the academy was still Valerie, which caused us to have some concern, but we couldn't pick her friends for her. (You can omit 'for her' it's redunit.)
I had a every night. (not sure what you're saying)
Comment Written 14-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. I meant to say I had a fever every night. I had to change the wording there and i accidently left out a word. Thanks for catching that.
Beth
Comment from Begin Again
I had a every night.
Lady, like they say, life can be grand if we don't weaken. Raising children is a chore for sure. Got mine raised and now I guess I've started over again. It has its good moments and its bad. Can't believe you can remember so many details. Not me...I have to keep reminding me who I am. LOL Smiles!
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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I had a every night.
Lady, like they say, life can be grand if we don't weaken. Raising children is a chore for sure. Got mine raised and now I guess I've started over again. It has its good moments and its bad. Can't believe you can remember so many details. Not me...I have to keep reminding me who I am. LOL Smiles!
Comment Written 14-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you so much for the review and great comments. I don't have any living with me any more but I'm still concerned about them. They tell me all their problems.
Beth
Comment from Mary Kay Bonfante
Two kids still in the nest, and you're still a stellar mom! You always will be -- I know from experience with my own mother, that most good mothers never really stop nurturing their children, one way or another. I know you didn't want to enable Christi, and you gave it your best effort. I think it was during that same era that the "failure to launch" syndrome really became widespread in our culture (I think it applied to my brother and me, as well). I remember that around the same time, my boss at work was always complaining about her son, who was hanging on and not growing up. To be fair, there were two important expenses that were rapidly becoming less affordable for young people: housing and health insurance. But there had to be much more complex reasons for it; also, in earlier generations, there may not have been as much of an expectation that unmarried children leave home. And you did have one married daughter, and Don heading off to school again.
It was a great idea to apply Dobson's strategies to your relationship with Connie. He was very popular during that era, and is still an authority, especially in Christian circles.
Here were some errors I found:
Dr. James Dobson had advise that resonated with me,
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Dr. James Dobson had advice that resonated with me,
She made A's in P.E. and in her Creative Art class,
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She made A's in physical education and in her creative art class,
We could only hope that this car purchase wouldn't end like the hugh mistake ...
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We could only hope that this car purchase wouldn't end like the huge mistake ...
Your were worried about me,
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You were worried about me,
My fever came up every night.
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I had a fever every night.
She had gotten into a fight with a customer who wasn't satisfied with an expensive kit Christi sold her.
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She had a dispute with a customer who wasn't satisfied with an expensive kit she sold her.
...and dump her problems on us, and ask to borrow more money, which you usually ended up giving her.
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...and dump her problems on us. She would ask to borrow more money, which you usually ended up giving her.
We played "good cop" "bad cop" and my role was always the latter.
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We played "good cop, bad cop" and my role was always the latter.
She wanted to make a trip to Carlifornia to see her old friend, Jay.
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She wanted to make a trip to California to see her old friend, Jay.
She'd gotten in fight on the phone with my mother, ...
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She got into a fight on the phone with my mother, ...
They had also bought two brand new vehicles.
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They had also bought two brand-new vehicles.
By late march, you had bought a garden cultivator,
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By late March, you had bought a garden cultivator,
When Spring break rolled around, you asked Don to go to Mississippi with you,
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When spring break rolled around, you asked Don to go to Mississippi with you.
The log house was old and was about to collapse.
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The log house was old and about to collapse.
While the two of you were gone, we had severe stormy weather.
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While the two of you were gone, we had severe, stormy weather.
Connie slept in my bed one night when the wind was blowing so hard ...
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Connie slept in my bed one night when the wind was blowing so hard, ...
The back of lot was sandy and near the St.John river.
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The back of the lot was sandy, and near the St. John River.
...headed for Disney world.
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...headed for Walt Disney World. [I looked it up, and was shocked to learn that this is the correct name for it... which would be for each time you use it, including previous chapters, especially if you publish this!]
...this was the second time we we were going to Disney World.
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...this was the second time we were going to Walt Disney World.
She claimed she couldn't breath,
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She claimed she couldn't breathe,
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That's a great Disney picture. I don't remember if you used it before, but it's very colorful.
As usual, you have so much going on in your family!
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Two kids still in the nest, and you're still a stellar mom! You always will be -- I know from experience with my own mother, that most good mothers never really stop nurturing their children, one way or another. I know you didn't want to enable Christi, and you gave it your best effort. I think it was during that same era that the "failure to launch" syndrome really became widespread in our culture (I think it applied to my brother and me, as well). I remember that around the same time, my boss at work was always complaining about her son, who was hanging on and not growing up. To be fair, there were two important expenses that were rapidly becoming less affordable for young people: housing and health insurance. But there had to be much more complex reasons for it; also, in earlier generations, there may not have been as much of an expectation that unmarried children leave home. And you did have one married daughter, and Don heading off to school again.
It was a great idea to apply Dobson's strategies to your relationship with Connie. He was very popular during that era, and is still an authority, especially in Christian circles.
Here were some errors I found:
Dr. James Dobson had advise that resonated with me,
-->
Dr. James Dobson had advice that resonated with me,
She made A's in P.E. and in her Creative Art class,
-->
She made A's in physical education and in her creative art class,
We could only hope that this car purchase wouldn't end like the hugh mistake ...
-->
We could only hope that this car purchase wouldn't end like the huge mistake ...
Your were worried about me,
-->
You were worried about me,
My fever came up every night.
-->
I had a fever every night.
She had gotten into a fight with a customer who wasn't satisfied with an expensive kit Christi sold her.
-->
She had a dispute with a customer who wasn't satisfied with an expensive kit she sold her.
...and dump her problems on us, and ask to borrow more money, which you usually ended up giving her.
-->
...and dump her problems on us. She would ask to borrow more money, which you usually ended up giving her.
We played "good cop" "bad cop" and my role was always the latter.
-->
We played "good cop, bad cop" and my role was always the latter.
She wanted to make a trip to Carlifornia to see her old friend, Jay.
-->
She wanted to make a trip to California to see her old friend, Jay.
She'd gotten in fight on the phone with my mother, ...
-->
She got into a fight on the phone with my mother, ...
They had also bought two brand new vehicles.
-->
They had also bought two brand-new vehicles.
By late march, you had bought a garden cultivator,
-->
By late March, you had bought a garden cultivator,
When Spring break rolled around, you asked Don to go to Mississippi with you,
-->
When spring break rolled around, you asked Don to go to Mississippi with you.
The log house was old and was about to collapse.
-->
The log house was old and about to collapse.
While the two of you were gone, we had severe stormy weather.
-->
While the two of you were gone, we had severe, stormy weather.
Connie slept in my bed one night when the wind was blowing so hard ...
-->
Connie slept in my bed one night when the wind was blowing so hard, ...
The back of lot was sandy and near the St.John river.
-->
The back of the lot was sandy, and near the St. John River.
...headed for Disney world.
-->
...headed for Walt Disney World. [I looked it up, and was shocked to learn that this is the correct name for it... which would be for each time you use it, including previous chapters, especially if you publish this!]
...this was the second time we we were going to Disney World.
-->
...this was the second time we were going to Walt Disney World.
She claimed she couldn't breath,
-->
She claimed she couldn't breathe,
***
That's a great Disney picture. I don't remember if you used it before, but it's very colorful.
As usual, you have so much going on in your family!
Comment Written 14-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you so much, Mary Kay. Your help is wonderful. I remember the Failure to Launch movie. I loved it. Grown kids at home want to feel like adults, but we still want them to live by our rules because otherwise they disrupt our lives. The Disney picture I used on this one showed the parade they had in 1988. I really appreciate the beautiful stars.
Beth
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You're very welcome, Beth. It's perfect that you used a picture from '88, but of course, if you publish, you might not put in so many pictures... unless you decide to add them, for interest; and then you won't need to put them in chapter by chapter, but most likely I'm groups, here and there (if at all). Blessings to you, my friend.
Love, Mary Kay xoxo
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No, If I publish I put fewer pictures and probably family picture if at all.
Beth
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Yes, that sounds right. A few good family photos would be just the thing!
Love, Mary Kay xoxo
Comment from royowen
Even though there seems to be problems, they are diminished, and the kids are rushing hesitantly into adulthood, I think there's one thing going from teen to adult is always a little difficult and a little traumatic, but obviously they make it. Well done Beth, blessings Roy
Typo : Dr. James Dobson had (advise) advice? 2;: you(r) were worried about me.
3: She'd gotten in (a) fight... 4 : The back of (the) lot...
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Even though there seems to be problems, they are diminished, and the kids are rushing hesitantly into adulthood, I think there's one thing going from teen to adult is always a little difficult and a little traumatic, but obviously they make it. Well done Beth, blessings Roy
Typo : Dr. James Dobson had (advise) advice? 2;: you(r) were worried about me.
3: She'd gotten in (a) fight... 4 : The back of (the) lot...
Comment Written 14-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. Life will get easier for us when all the kids move out. We will miss them but it hard for a lot of adults in one house. Thanks for noticing the errors Mary Kay gave me a page of corrections so I think I've fixed everything.
Beth
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Well done
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
Captivating--I LOVE this book!
In some ways the year of 1988 [OMIT COMMA] started out better as [far as=>REGARDS] our relationship with Connie.
Dr. James Dobson had [advise=>ADVICE] that resonated with me,
hugh=>HUGE mistake he'd made
stored in an house=>A HOUSE
in march=>March (cap. months)
she couldn't breath=>BREATHE
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Captivating--I LOVE this book!
In some ways the year of 1988 [OMIT COMMA] started out better as [far as=>REGARDS] our relationship with Connie.
Dr. James Dobson had [advise=>ADVICE] that resonated with me,
hugh=>HUGE mistake he'd made
stored in an house=>A HOUSE
in march=>March (cap. months)
she couldn't breath=>BREATHE
Comment Written 14-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you Elizabeth, I'm so glad you like this. It has been through the Mary Kay editing session, but she missed a couple that you found so thank you.
Betj
Comment from lyenochka
I laughed about your apology to your husband about him slowing everyone down with coffee breaks. Ah, traveling with family is tough! Again, I'm so amazed at how you put up with all these kids still depending on you and keeping you so busy and worried!
Some comments:
Dr. James Dobson had advise (advice)
like the hugh mistake (huge)
By late march, (March)
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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I laughed about your apology to your husband about him slowing everyone down with coffee breaks. Ah, traveling with family is tough! Again, I'm so amazed at how you put up with all these kids still depending on you and keeping you so busy and worried!
Some comments:
Dr. James Dobson had advise (advice)
like the hugh mistake (huge)
By late march, (March)
Comment Written 14-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you so much for the review and comment. Living with adult children wasn't so easy. They are easier to love when we don't see them constantly. This has been through the Mary Kay editing session so I think all the errors got fixed but thanks for pointing them out.
Beth
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I love your comment about the "Mary Kay" editing session. She is so thorough! 💖
Comment from Iza Deleanu
Nice rounds between kids, school, life as usual, husband, future plans, just another story that shows how normal people live. Thank you for sharing and good luck with the next chapter.
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reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Nice rounds between kids, school, life as usual, husband, future plans, just another story that shows how normal people live. Thank you for sharing and good luck with the next chapter.
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Comment Written 14-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you so much for the review. I'm glad you see us as normal people. I keep telling everyone that, but they seem to think I have more problems than most. I think all families have problems.
Beth
Comment from RetroStarfish
I'm still enjoying your family's story and look forward to reading new chapters. This one is lovely and moves at a nice pace.
A few minor typos:
"Your were worried about me..." [ should be you]
"She'd gotten in fight on the phone with my mother..." [should be she'd gotten in a fight.]
"...By late march..." [should be March.]
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reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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I'm still enjoying your family's story and look forward to reading new chapters. This one is lovely and moves at a nice pace.
A few minor typos:
"Your were worried about me..." [ should be you]
"She'd gotten in fight on the phone with my mother..." [should be she'd gotten in a fight.]
"...By late march..." [should be March.]
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Comment Written 13-Mar-2021
reply by the author on 14-Mar-2021
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Thank you so much for the review and comment. I'm so glad you like reading my story. Thanks for pointing out the errors. I've fixed them.
Beth
