Remembering Yesterday
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Comment from lyenochka
That is so much pressure on you! And with all that you had to deal with your own children and you had to care for your parents. I'm glad that your dad mellowed out as that made it easier.
I know you said your kids like this book but aren't they a bit concerned about the problems shared, like Christi being "the biggest problem" ?
But it's wonderful that all of your kids were attending church. Very few parents can say that these days.
reply by the author on 21-Jan-2022
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That is so much pressure on you! And with all that you had to deal with your own children and you had to care for your parents. I'm glad that your dad mellowed out as that made it easier.
I know you said your kids like this book but aren't they a bit concerned about the problems shared, like Christi being "the biggest problem" ?
But it's wonderful that all of your kids were attending church. Very few parents can say that these days.
Comment Written 20-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 21-Jan-2022
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Thank you Helen, Christi well aware of the all the problems she has caused. She just laughs at some of it, but she hopes no one will read it but family. She was shocked when I told others were reading it. They have all caused problems at times. All the children know I love them, and that none of us are perfect. We're all trying to improve. Christi has had more than her share of problems.
Beth
Comment from Spitfire
It would seem with all your children, a couple of them could have helped with Grandma and Grampa. But then they all were busy with their own lives. At least that has been my experience when I had to handle Frank by myself. I've learned not to call on either of them in time of need (Nichole is 3000 miles away and terrified of flying; Chris is busy with his job and getting his children ready for college) But I was there when my Mom needed me!
reply by the author on 21-Jan-2022
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It would seem with all your children, a couple of them could have helped with Grandma and Grampa. But then they all were busy with their own lives. At least that has been my experience when I had to handle Frank by myself. I've learned not to call on either of them in time of need (Nichole is 3000 miles away and terrified of flying; Chris is busy with his job and getting his children ready for college) But I was there when my Mom needed me!
Comment Written 20-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 21-Jan-2022
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Thank you for the review and comments. At the time my children lived too far away but they could have helped after I brought Dad to live with us. They didn't and only Carol helped occasionally with her dad. The other visited regularly. I don't expect I'll get much help when I need it, but I hope they will visit me.
Comment from Ricky1024
"Aging Parent's in Need of Help"
Many years ago in the past children took care of their aging parents.
Today they will either disperse them in a place where they're not looked after and then steal the house eventually.
Or try to do the same thing after putting them in a nursing home just to rid themselves of having to change the diapers and feed them.
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This was well written rich in Theme and Imagery.
It also, read well and flowed well with no Grammar Issues.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky 1024
reply by the author on 20-Jan-2022
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"Aging Parent's in Need of Help"
Many years ago in the past children took care of their aging parents.
Today they will either disperse them in a place where they're not looked after and then steal the house eventually.
Or try to do the same thing after putting them in a nursing home just to rid themselves of having to change the diapers and feed them.
...
This was well written rich in Theme and Imagery.
It also, read well and flowed well with no Grammar Issues.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky 1024
Comment Written 20-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 20-Jan-2022
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Thank you Ricky, This is true. My parents took care of their parents and I did the same for my Dad. Right now I have a cousin who is 92 and she keeps running off her caregivers with her bad temper. Her daughter has had her since she was seventy-five. I have to think she is lucky they gave her place to live that long. Like you say, most kids put them away as soon as they can't take care of themselves.
Beth
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I live in Harborview and it's entirely 75s and older.
Marianne DeChelles.
She lived down the hall and was the woman weaving leftovers on the table that I was graciously enjoying!
We became friends one day when she needed medication and she had no help but me.
Soon it was a $20 bill and a note to get her Cheyenne cigarettes and a cup of coffee at the local convenience store.
Then it became her TD Bank card and a list of groceries or wanted needs from the local Walmart mainly medications.
It appears that her daughter had dumped her here and could care less.
One day I went to introduce my new friend Monique to her and the apartment was a shambles.
It was so disgusting from the three cats that Monique told me she had to leave I went back to my apartment to take a shower because she felt so dirty.
The next 5 hours I dedicated myself to cleaning what would be considered by the state of New Jersey on unlivable experience.
Finally when Monique return she couldn't believe the difference.
It is now been almost a year since Marianne passed away from cervical cancer.
I still take care of her cat Gaylord.
Ricky
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I live in Harborview and it's entirely 75s and older.
Marianne DeChelles.
She lived down the hall and was the woman weaving leftovers on the table that I was graciously enjoying!
We became friends one day when she needed medication and she had no help but me.
Soon it was a $20 bill and a note to get her Cheyenne cigarettes and a cup of coffee at the local convenience store.
Then it became her TD Bank card and a list of groceries or wanted needs from the local Walmart mainly medications.
It appears that her daughter had dumped her here and could care less.
One day I went to introduce my new friend Monique to her and the apartment was a shambles.
It was so disgusting from the three cats that Monique told me she had to leave I went back to my apartment to take a shower because she felt so dirty.
The next 5 hours I dedicated myself to cleaning what would be considered by the state of New Jersey on unlivable experience.
Finally when Monique return she couldn't believe the difference.
It is now been almost a year since Marianne passed away from cervical cancer.
I still take care of her cat Gaylord.
Ricky
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Wow! Ricky, you became at caregiver for someone after her children dumped her. She was lucky to meet you. Not many men would do that.
I have a new oriental daughter-in-law that says she wants to take of me. I will take care of myself as long as possible. I think oriental people are more inclined to care for older people than American young people today.
Comment from Ben Colder
Please excuse my not having a six. This was excellent. The therapy they needed was you coming and the change of environment. What a beautiful scene you painted with them holding hands and blending with the moment. My Mary and I did this many times. She liked holding hands even in public.
reply by the author on 20-Jan-2022
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Please excuse my not having a six. This was excellent. The therapy they needed was you coming and the change of environment. What a beautiful scene you painted with them holding hands and blending with the moment. My Mary and I did this many times. She liked holding hands even in public.
Comment Written 20-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 20-Jan-2022
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Thank you for the review and comments. I'm about out of sixes too.
I always liked holding hands. It is hard to believe that at eighty, Mom wasn't able to cope any more, but I still am I'm and older than she was when she died.
Beth
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I am 83. I sent my manuscript to the Ghostwriters, now we will see what happens.
Comment from Katherine M. (k-11)
Overall this is a good chapter if you solve issues of grammar and punctuation.
Potential SPAGs for your consideration:
that was reproduced and packaged > that reproduced and packaged
full time > consistency in hyphen use
which 300 miles of the distance > missing verb
who went school > who went to school
there problems were keeping me up night. > ??? confusing
sometimes, had > sometimes had
relaxing enough you would > relaxing enough so you would
Georgia, appeared > Georgia, which appeared
money, we'd loaned > money we'd loaned
which, were > which were
children, were > children were
to settled down > to settle down
took the back > took them back
had to left > had to be left
with x bad back > with a bad back
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reply by the author on 20-Jan-2022
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Overall this is a good chapter if you solve issues of grammar and punctuation.
Potential SPAGs for your consideration:
that was reproduced and packaged > that reproduced and packaged
full time > consistency in hyphen use
which 300 miles of the distance > missing verb
who went school > who went to school
there problems were keeping me up night. > ??? confusing
sometimes, had > sometimes had
relaxing enough you would > relaxing enough so you would
Georgia, appeared > Georgia, which appeared
money, we'd loaned > money we'd loaned
which, were > which were
children, were > children were
to settled down > to settle down
took the back > took them back
had to left > had to be left
with x bad back > with a bad back
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Comment Written 20-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 20-Jan-2022
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Thank you some much for the help in catching the spags. I'm having some serious eye and my daughter was supposed to check it for me but she had to go to work at the last. I have no idea where all those extra commas came from. I've made the correction you caught. I hope that is all.
Beth
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usually I have quite a good eye, and I did write everything I saw. Sorry to hear you have health problems. If you want me to do future chapters before you post, I'd be happy to.
Comment from Gert sherwood
A time went life starts to unravel.
A chapter in the book Remembering Yesterday
Aging Parents In Need of Help
Beth
I read your story, and I can see why you are trying to figure what to do.
Here I am eighty five and Stan is ninety. Both of us find it diffuclt to get things done. I can see why you are trying help your mother and your Dad
I'm sure they appreciate what you are doing for them.
Gert
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reply by the author on 20-Jan-2022
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A time went life starts to unravel.
A chapter in the book Remembering Yesterday
Aging Parents In Need of Help
Beth
I read your story, and I can see why you are trying to figure what to do.
Here I am eighty five and Stan is ninety. Both of us find it diffuclt to get things done. I can see why you are trying help your mother and your Dad
I'm sure they appreciate what you are doing for them.
Gert
an
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Comment Written 20-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 20-Jan-2022
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Thank you for the review. Well, they both had health problem. I was still in my fifties then and could help. Now I'm where they were. I'm 84, but so far still able to take care of myself. My husband would be 93 but he died at 88.
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Its great you are in good health
Thank you for your reply. Beth did you ever think about writing a novel about you and your family?
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I'm going to put one of the books I'm writing on Amazon for my children and grand children and anyone else who is interested.
Beth
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Great I'm happy for you.
Gert
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Great I'm happy for you.
Gert
