Internal Pressure
Feeling our own26 total reviews
Comment from Irish Rain
Bingo.
It's very rarely outside circumstances.
Example...
The traffic throws my husband into a bad mood...
same traffic...but I enjoy the waits and pauses, by
using the time to appreciate my surroundings.
One person may see the litter-strewn street,
another notices the flower growing through the
crack in the sidewalk.
Same street.
My point is...wherever we are, we take ourselves with us,
and what is IN us...determines so much of our outlooks,
moods, and thereby...life.
Making peace with our inner beings, can be a huge
difference. Acceptance, because some things just ARE.
Changing what we can, and enjoying the flowers in the
cracks.
Loved this,
blessings...
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2022
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Bingo.
It's very rarely outside circumstances.
Example...
The traffic throws my husband into a bad mood...
same traffic...but I enjoy the waits and pauses, by
using the time to appreciate my surroundings.
One person may see the litter-strewn street,
another notices the flower growing through the
crack in the sidewalk.
Same street.
My point is...wherever we are, we take ourselves with us,
and what is IN us...determines so much of our outlooks,
moods, and thereby...life.
Making peace with our inner beings, can be a huge
difference. Acceptance, because some things just ARE.
Changing what we can, and enjoying the flowers in the
cracks.
Loved this,
blessings...
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2022
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Wow, Judy! You have hit the nail right on the head! I love your examples of the traffic and the trash in the street versus the pleasant surroundings and the flower growing through the crack in the sidewalk. I agree entirely that making peace with our inner beings or selves is the way to go! Accepting things that are just the way they are is a healthy way to keep positivity in our lives! Thank you for the sixth star and this could easily be the best review I have read in a long time!
Jesse
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Oh wow....Yay!!! Happy week ahead!!!
Comment from Pam (respa)
-Thanks for sharing the artwork, note, and story, Jesse.
-You did a good job explaining how we often
blame others for our own mistakes or choices.
-The opening paragraph is very good.
-You do a good job of explaining internal
and external pressures.
-The conclusion is good, too.
-Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2022
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-Thanks for sharing the artwork, note, and story, Jesse.
-You did a good job explaining how we often
blame others for our own mistakes or choices.
-The opening paragraph is very good.
-You do a good job of explaining internal
and external pressures.
-The conclusion is good, too.
-Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2022
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Thank you, Pam, for your in-depth and extremely thorough review. You cover every aspect of this post and I appreciate your positive feedback. I will consider your suggestion of separating the paragraphs I will look at it again and decide. Thanks for your kind comments and superb review.
Have a wonderful week,
Jesse
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You are very welcome, Jesse, and I appreciate your reply. You have a great week, too.
Comment from Michele Harber
I'm trying to decide whether I'd prefer you as my psychiatrist or as the President of the United States. What you say is so wise and intelligent, and obviously a conclusion you've struggled to come to over time. I've noticed that I do have a tendency to look for blame when something goes wrong, but the advantage to being aware of that is that I can fight against it.
You express your point very clearly and concisely, without criticism or blame. You merely present a facet of human nature and leave us to contemplate it and see how it applies to us in our own lives.
If this is an example of what I can expect to find in my Message box, I'm very glad I finally became a fan.
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2022
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I'm trying to decide whether I'd prefer you as my psychiatrist or as the President of the United States. What you say is so wise and intelligent, and obviously a conclusion you've struggled to come to over time. I've noticed that I do have a tendency to look for blame when something goes wrong, but the advantage to being aware of that is that I can fight against it.
You express your point very clearly and concisely, without criticism or blame. You merely present a facet of human nature and leave us to contemplate it and see how it applies to us in our own lives.
If this is an example of what I can expect to find in my Message box, I'm very glad I finally became a fan.
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2022
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Hi Michele! I don't think I would want to take on the responsibilities of being the president of the United States. But you are right! I have struggled long and hard to come to this conclusion. It was my hope that my readers might contemplate the message and perhaps think about it and ponder it a while. I, too am glad you became my fan. You write with precision and give great reviews.
Have a wonderful upcoming week!
Jesse
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I don't blame you. I'd never want to be President either. Then again, I hate politics, as it seems to have so little to do with taking care of the needs of the people you represent, so I'd rather not hold any office at all.
Which leaves therapist. The first step in solving a problem is determining what it is and where it originates, and you seem to have that part of the process down pat. I'm glad your struggles led you to such an understanding about yourself, and about life in general. At least those struggles weren't for naught.
Thank you for your very flattering words about my writing and reviewing. You've definitely made me smile. You have a great week as well.
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The president or a therapist...hmm I would rather not. I have enough difficulty being myself. And that is a full-time job!
I am glad I made you smile.
Keep smiling, my friend,
Jesse
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Here's a suggestion. Just be the best Jesse James Doty you can be. That should be easy, since you've already made a really good start.
I'll keep smiling if you will.
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Thanks! Now you ought to see my smile, it is a mile wide!
Jesse
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And that comment just had the same effect on me. We're both going to have a good night tonight!
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Yes, it is going well so far!
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Great!
Comment from Mike Stevens
Another fine essay, Jesse----and it seems that blaming everyone else for our troubles is an epidemic in our country right at the moment. 'Tis the rare soul who says, "no one to blame but me"
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2022
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Another fine essay, Jesse----and it seems that blaming everyone else for our troubles is an epidemic in our country right at the moment. 'Tis the rare soul who says, "no one to blame but me"
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2022
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I agree with you, Mike! Our country is playing the blame game and it is rampant and needs to stop. In reality, there is no one to blame but ourselves.
Have a wonderful day,
Jesse
Comment from Heather Burroughs
This is SO true. There was a time in my marriage that I was just annoyed at everything my husband did or didn't do. Then, one morning I woke up and realized it was me. If I thought negatively then all I would see is negative. After that day I try to focus solely on the positive. I'm human so I fail daily but I still try. Thank you for sharing. Many blessings to you.
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2022
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This is SO true. There was a time in my marriage that I was just annoyed at everything my husband did or didn't do. Then, one morning I woke up and realized it was me. If I thought negatively then all I would see is negative. After that day I try to focus solely on the positive. I'm human so I fail daily but I still try. Thank you for sharing. Many blessings to you.
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2022
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Thank you, Heather, for this highly insightful review. Yes, focusing on the negativity will only make things worse. Trying to stay positive is a hard job but worth it all the way. I am glad this resonated with you. Thanks for sharing your story with me.
Have a nice week,
Jesse
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Jesse, you are most welcome.
You have a wonderful week as well.
Comment from lyenochka
Thank you for sharing this wise insight, Jesse! And it's hard to look within to see what it is about us that is overlaying the world with a filter that makes us tend to blame things or people. You're right we always should do some self-examination first.
Suggestion to make this two sentences as it was a little confusing:
"We are not always aware of our internal forces which lead to our feeling pressured by things we cannot control thus we blame rather than feel the loneliness inside of us"
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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Thank you for sharing this wise insight, Jesse! And it's hard to look within to see what it is about us that is overlaying the world with a filter that makes us tend to blame things or people. You're right we always should do some self-examination first.
Suggestion to make this two sentences as it was a little confusing:
"We are not always aware of our internal forces which lead to our feeling pressured by things we cannot control thus we blame rather than feel the loneliness inside of us"
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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Thanks, Helen, for this insightful and encouraging review. I agree that it is hard to look within rather than look outwards toward others to blame for our own shortcomings. I appreciate your suggestion to divide the long sentence into two sentences. I have already done just that before I responded to you.
I certainly don't want to confuse my readers.
Thanks for your help.
Jesse
Comment from justafan
Very well written logic to an illogical action. You're right, we have only ourselves to blame for our actions.
My daughter told her son; if you're going to be stupid, you gotta be tough.
Smilin
Thank you for sharing
Always
Justafan of yours
Missy
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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Very well written logic to an illogical action. You're right, we have only ourselves to blame for our actions.
My daughter told her son; if you're going to be stupid, you gotta be tough.
Smilin
Thank you for sharing
Always
Justafan of yours
Missy
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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Thanks, Missy, for your kind comments and philosophical reasonings. I am glad you can relate to what I have written.
Take care and have a nice weekend,
Jesse
Comment from damommy
You are right, and I totally agree. I've always believed one can only be happy if they are happy inside themselves. We can't depend on other things or people to give us happiness. We must create our own happiness.
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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You are right, and I totally agree. I've always believed one can only be happy if they are happy inside themselves. We can't depend on other things or people to give us happiness. We must create our own happiness.
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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Thanks, Yvonne, I totally agree with you that we must create our own happiness. I appreciate your insights and time and efforts to read and review my work.
Have a great weekend,
Jesse
Comment from barbara.wilkey
Thank you for sharing. It is true so very often we are our own worst enemies.
We can blame our friends or the grocer the baker the candlestick maker, and more when it is really our internal pressure that guides us to feelings of shame. (You need commas when you make a list, friends, or grocer, and so on.)
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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Thank you for sharing. It is true so very often we are our own worst enemies.
We can blame our friends or the grocer the baker the candlestick maker, and more when it is really our internal pressure that guides us to feelings of shame. (You need commas when you make a list, friends, or grocer, and so on.)
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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I have found that using little punctuation works well for me. Thank you for your suggestion, though. I agree that we can be our own worst enemies. Thank you, Barbara, for taking the time and effort to review my work.
Have a nice weekend,
Jesse
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
A poignant write Jesse and we do have a society where we want to blame someone for our shortcomings. I blamed my Father and his bullying ways for not learning my lessons at school properly and yet he was not there at the school and I threw away many opportunities to learn by focusing too much on home. I have learned over time to keep stress away from my door and concentrate on the good things in life and if I don't learn or I faith then it is me who is responsible, no one else. I have gained confidence over the years to carve out a good life and give myself what I deserve, this is what you should do too. There will always be a little bit of stress in life, but I reward myself when I feel I have achieved something, many will identify with your words here, a fine write from the heart, love Dolly x
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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A poignant write Jesse and we do have a society where we want to blame someone for our shortcomings. I blamed my Father and his bullying ways for not learning my lessons at school properly and yet he was not there at the school and I threw away many opportunities to learn by focusing too much on home. I have learned over time to keep stress away from my door and concentrate on the good things in life and if I don't learn or I faith then it is me who is responsible, no one else. I have gained confidence over the years to carve out a good life and give myself what I deserve, this is what you should do too. There will always be a little bit of stress in life, but I reward myself when I feel I have achieved something, many will identify with your words here, a fine write from the heart, love Dolly x
Comment Written 05-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2022
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Great advice, Dolly! You sure know what you are talking about and how to fix it for yourself and for me as well. I agree there will always be stress in our lives so we ought to reward ourselves when we have accomplished something big. Thanks for your kind words, my friend.
Jesse
