Remembering Yesterday
Viewing comments for Chapter 150 "Agonizing Decisions"A widow's journey into her relationship with her
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Comment from LisaMay
This episode in your life makes for stressful reading as you share the many stresses in your life that were current then.... business, work, car, property, interpersonal, health ... but the biggest one is your complex relationship with your mother and associated feelings of guilt and overload pressure.
Well written - you've captured emotional dilemmas very clearly.
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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This episode in your life makes for stressful reading as you share the many stresses in your life that were current then.... business, work, car, property, interpersonal, health ... but the biggest one is your complex relationship with your mother and associated feelings of guilt and overload pressure.
Well written - you've captured emotional dilemmas very clearly.
Comment Written 20-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thank you LisaMay. I loved my mother but I had a stressful relationship with her at times. I knew I disappointed her in some ways, but she wanted so badly to be proud of me. I never felt I quite lived up to her expectations and in the end she needed me and I wasn't there for her. I felt a lot of pressure and guilt. I really appreciate the review.
Beth
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Sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves trying to live up to others' expectations.
I was lucky that I was able to persuade my ailing elderly father to move from Australia to come and live with me in New Zealand for his last 8 years.
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
Your story is heart-wrenching, Beth. You told it well. It is well organized with great details, though those are serious and sad. Your family seems to be experiencing many ups and downs at the same as your parents are in a desperate situation. I believe you were in a place that no matter what you did, it wasn't right etc. My mother was an only child and lived 500 miles from her parents. It was difficult time for her--sometimes doing nothing worked, but most times whatever she did wasn't helpful or too stressful etc.
Your chapter was well written.
Respectfully, Jan
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Your story is heart-wrenching, Beth. You told it well. It is well organized with great details, though those are serious and sad. Your family seems to be experiencing many ups and downs at the same as your parents are in a desperate situation. I believe you were in a place that no matter what you did, it wasn't right etc. My mother was an only child and lived 500 miles from her parents. It was difficult time for her--sometimes doing nothing worked, but most times whatever she did wasn't helpful or too stressful etc.
Your chapter was well written.
Respectfully, Jan
Comment Written 20-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thank you Jan, Being an only child put an additional burden on you and being a long way off makes it harder. I had a lot guilt feeling I would have been better off without. I appreciate your review and for telling me about your mother's experience.
Beth
Comment from Jasmine Girl
It's so nice that you are so close to your mother. I'm not. Charlie sounded interesting and wanted to marry Connie but Connie didn't want to. I guess they didn't.
Well done.
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reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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It's so nice that you are so close to your mother. I'm not. Charlie sounded interesting and wanted to marry Connie but Connie didn't want to. I guess they didn't.
Well done.
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Comment Written 20-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thank you for the review. I was close to my mom but I grieved because I felt guilty that I could never quite be what she wanted me to be and I guilt because I let her down when she needed my help.
Charlie asked Connie to marry him and she wanted to but then he denies asking her to an old girl friend. Charlie and Connie are still engaged at the this point and plan to marry. More about them still to come. I appreciate the comments.
Beth
Comment from lyenochka
You certainly warned us that things would get bad and it did. I can imagine how stressed you were at home and at work and then all the time pressure involved. Plus, it didn't sound like you really wanted to move back to Mississippi. All that disharmony between what Evan as telling you to do and his ideal home location and your parents' land sale disagreements, and then the relationship problems between your daughters and their boyfriends must have made it all the worse for you! Glad you got there to be with your mom at the hospital.
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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You certainly warned us that things would get bad and it did. I can imagine how stressed you were at home and at work and then all the time pressure involved. Plus, it didn't sound like you really wanted to move back to Mississippi. All that disharmony between what Evan as telling you to do and his ideal home location and your parents' land sale disagreements, and then the relationship problems between your daughters and their boyfriends must have made it all the worse for you! Glad you got there to be with your mom at the hospital.
Comment Written 20-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thank you so much for the review. It was bad time for many reasons and there is still my dad to deal with. I'm not sure my mom even knew me. We were never able to talk again. I really appreciate the comments and the six stars.
Beth
Comment from royowen
This is a very sad episode indeed, no one likes the death or threatening illness, particularly one's parents. To think that you may have been the cause of that onset is silly really, anything could tip it over really. But you're a good daughter, only wanting a good outcome for the sale of the property. Beautifully written Beth, blessings Roy
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reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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This is a very sad episode indeed, no one likes the death or threatening illness, particularly one's parents. To think that you may have been the cause of that onset is silly really, anything could tip it over really. But you're a good daughter, only wanting a good outcome for the sale of the property. Beautifully written Beth, blessings Roy
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Comment Written 20-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thank you Roy. I know it wasn't all my fault but I should have done something much sooner because they had needed help for a while. My didn't need my pressure.
Beth
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Probably not, but she loved you.
Comment from Ulla
Oh, Beth, this bis heart breaking and may I add so very well written. I'm so very sorry what happened here. It must have been agony, to see your mum going. Of course, there's no way I can know if what the outcome might be, but I have my worry.
I'm so glad you're back, Beth. I've been missing your writing.
I can't wait for what's next. Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Oh, Beth, this bis heart breaking and may I add so very well written. I'm so very sorry what happened here. It must have been agony, to see your mum going. Of course, there's no way I can know if what the outcome might be, but I have my worry.
I'm so glad you're back, Beth. I've been missing your writing.
I can't wait for what's next. Ulla:)))
Comment Written 20-Feb-2022
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2022
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Thank you so much Ulla. I've been gone. I've been posting regularly but some of been contest entries with no names so your wouldn't be notified. I'm thrilled with the six stars. Yes this is a sad time in my life.
Beth
