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Suddenly a Caregiver

Sometimes I don't know which end is up.

43 total reviews 
Comment from royowen
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I have prayed both for healing and for your welfare as well, it's obvious your health is suffering in this too, but please take care, you won't be any use to your mum otherwise, I've both for you and mum in healing and also for a resolution, beautifully written MaryKay, blessings Roy

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 04-Sep-2022
    Thank you, Roy, for your kindness and your prayers. My mother went into assisted living in mid-July, and I went home with my husband, but life has still not been easy for any of us. Mom is very unhappy where she is, and we're praying that by God's grace she will find a happier situation. Our apartment is full of problems -- too much to explain, but for starters, no A/C this entire, hot summer.
    At least I've been able to start dealing with my medical problems, which is a process, but I'm grateful that God is helping me through it. I truly apologize for the very long delay in replying to your caring review, but I haven?t been on FS in order to deal with other, more pressing needs. May God bless you and your family, in everything. - Mary Kay
reply by royowen on 04-Sep-2022
    You?ve done well
reply by the author on 04-Sep-2022
    Thank you, my friend.
reply by royowen on 04-Sep-2022
    Welcome
Comment from LJbutterfly
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I am so glad to hear from you. I've missed you and checked the community listing of members to see if you were still on FanStory. First of all, I believe in God our Father, and will certainly pray for you, your mother and family. As a patient diagnosed with scoliosis, inoperable herniated disks, rheumatoid arthritis and sciatica, I understand your mother's conditions, and the severity of what you're dealing with despite your own personal issues. No, we don't understand God's reasons or timing, but we know He is with us, showering us with His grace and mercy. Blessings to you.

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 04-Sep-2022
    After all this time ... I'm finally replying to your review! I do apologize that so much time has passed.
    Thank you so much for your kind and compassionate review, Lorraine. I believe I read my reviews at the time, but just didn't have time to respond. I've been home since mid-July, but life here has also been tremendously difficult all summer, and it's too much to really go into, but I hope I'll be more active on FS (as opposed to completely absent).
    As for Mom, she's in assisted living, but very unhappy there, because she really needs a full-time aide and can't afford to have one, in addition to the costs of the facility. So... I thank you for your prayers, and if you remember from time to time, we still need them! In times like these, we must indeed throw ourselves onto the mercy of God.
    Many thanks, blessings to you too, and love. - Mary Kay xoxo
reply by LJbutterfly on 05-Sep-2022
    Hi Mary Kay,
    I was surprised and delighted to hear from you. Your silence told me you were going through some things. Since we communicated last, I've come to realize we are all one big family that must support and pray for one another. Several Fanstorians are dealing with aging parents, and my own fifty-year-old daughter has concerns about me and her father. I'm glad to know you are still a member of this group, and my prayers are still with you. Keep me posted on how you are doing, and may God continue to keep you in the secret place of the most High and cover you with his feathers. (Ps. 91)
Comment from Sandra Nelms-Ludwig
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While this post is long, I hope it has been cathartic for you. I am sorry you and your mom have had so many ongoing medical issues. I hope your prayers are answered and all may get some relief in the very near future. Thank you for sharing. Blessings are wished for you and your loved ones.

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 31-Aug-2022
    Thank you for your kind review and blessings, Sandra. Yes, it was cathartic to write this post. Mom is now in assisted living, but very unhappy there. I'm home and dealing with some of my medical problems, but it's been a very difficult summer; too much to describe. I can only continue looking to God for the help I need for me and my husband, and for my mother, even though she's no longer close by. May He bless you too, my friend. Love, Mary Kay xoxo
reply by Sandra Nelms-Ludwig on 01-Sep-2022
    You are welcome. I hope things get better.
reply by the author on 04-Sep-2022
    I really appreciate that. I'm praying that they do!
reply by Sandra Nelms-Ludwig on 04-Sep-2022
    You are welcome. Take it one day at a time.
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
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You did a great job sharing this info about your mom,
Mary Kay. It's a difficult job being a caregiver, but in
the end it's rewarding to know you were there for her.
I wondered where you had been. Welcome back. I will
keep you and yours in my prayers.
Take care, Jan

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 31-Aug-2022
    Hi Jan. Turns out I didn't stay around FS for long. I'm still going through some tough times, just not in the same way. Mom's in assisted living, but not happy.
    Thank you for your prayers. Sorry my reply was such a long time coming! God bless you always. Love, Mary Kay xoxo
reply by Jannypan (Jan) on 31-Aug-2022
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reply by the author on 31-Aug-2022
    Thank you! ❣🙌🏻🙏
Comment from Carolyn Dooley
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I worked in nursing homes with up seventeen patients a day. It is hard work. I worked because I knew I was helping people live life to the fullest. I feel for you, your husband, and most of all your mother. God Bless her. Take care of her the best you can. I pray you put her in a safe environment. I will pray for all of you. Tell Kay, someone in Kalamazoo, Michigan, a former Nurse Assistant, wishes her the best.

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 15-Jun-2022
    Dear Carolyn, God bless you for all you did for your nursing home patients. That is certainly hard work, a labor of love and not for the faint of heart. I greatly appreciate your kind and loving review, your prayers and especially your personal message to my mother! She is currently planning to go into assisted living, it is almost a sure thing now, and will probably happen within a month's time. She's really frightened because she doesn't know what the future holds, and I feel for her very deeply. May God bless you, my friend!
    Love, Mary Kay xoxo
reply by Carolyn Dooley on 16-Jun-2022
    Thank you 💖💖💖.
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
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It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life just now Mary and most of it has to do with yours and your Mother's health, I wish you both the best for a good outcome, my thoughts and prayers are with you, love Dolly x

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 15-Jun-2022
    Thank you so much, Dolly, you're so kind. I'm sorry for the long delay in responding to you. I appreciate your caring review and your prayers very much. May God bless you!
    Love, Mary Kay xoxo
Comment from Beri Bee
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Thank you for sharing, Mary Kay. I'm so sorry for the high level of burden you are now carrying on your shoulders. It's good to know you have a reliable and loving partner through it all, though your challenges sound quite extreme. No act of kindness is ever lost. That you can speak of your mother being so loving is a beautiful gift. May you, Kay, and Jorge find strength, peace, and even joy as you continue this part of the journey.

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 14-Jun-2022
    Dear Beri Bee, thank you very much for your kind and compassionate review of my post. I'm sorry it took so long for me to reply. Your response really shows me that you read my story very carefully and thoughtfully. May God bless you, my friend. Love, Mary Kay xoxo
reply by Beri Bee on 14-Jun-2022
    Dear Mary Kay, I know how your time is. No need to write back at anyone else?s pace or ever if that?s the way it goes. I can?t imagine not reading carefully when you?ve worked at a piece and put your heart and life into it. I feel honored to be able to read and comment. Still thinking of you and yours. ? Beri
Comment from jessizero
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I am so sorry for what you are going through. I will say a prayer for you and your family. It is right that your faith-based activities are above other things. Best wishes to you.

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 14-Jun-2022
    Thank you very much for your kind and understanding review, and especially for praying for us. I also appreciate that you are very supportive of my faith. I'm sorry it's taken so long for my to respond. May God bless you! Love, Mary Kay xoxo
Comment from nomi338
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There is so much to unpack from this troubling account. Apparently, you are the sole help for your mom and that is proving to be problematic. You have my complete sympathy and heartfelt prayers are being offered up. Please do not worry about your standing within the FS community. You are family, we love you and wish only the best for you and those who count on you for support. May God bless and keep you in his loving arms.

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 14-Jun-2022
    Thank you so very much, my friend. Please forgive the long delay in responding. I deeply appreciate both your heartfelt prayers and sincere understanding of what I am facing. Yes, there is no one else close by who my mother can turn to at this time -- it just breaks my heart that I can't be her lifelong caregiver, but my health issues are becoming more serious, and she will probably be in assisted living, in a matter of weeks. I am very thankful for such a loving mother, and also for my very caring husband, who stays with me many nights and is very supportive. I thank God for my FS community, as you have so aptly described it, and the warmth, love and kindness so many of you have shown me, just through these reviews and your prayers. May God bless you always! Your sister in Christ, Mary Kay
Comment from Theodore McDowell
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Oh how I feel for you. I have cared for my mother and father during the end of their lives and now my wife and I are caring for her 96 year-old father. I know it is exhausting, but also it appears you have a servant's heart. I will pray for your situation. Stay strong.

 Comment Written 29-May-2022


reply by the author on 02-Jun-2022
    Dear Ted, thank you so much for your kind and compassionate review. I would love to have a servant's heart -- I'm working on it! There are moments when stress and anxiety get the better of me, but I'm praying for God's help during these trials, for all concerned -- my mother, myself and my husband. I really appreciate your prayers very much! Thank you so much for your empathy and understanding. I know that you've been there. May God bless you and your family. - Mary Kay