Magnum PI Was My Dad
Hate fills the emptiness.34 total reviews
Comment from JanPerry
In fact you wish Magnum PI was your father, instead of the cards you got dealt. So many children are abused, not I for one. So many people have physical difficulties and live on a day to day drama. But you have a dad who neglected you. Welcome to the real world buddy.
reply by the author on 12-Feb-2023
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In fact you wish Magnum PI was your father, instead of the cards you got dealt. So many children are abused, not I for one. So many people have physical difficulties and live on a day to day drama. But you have a dad who neglected you. Welcome to the real world buddy.
Comment Written 12-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 12-Feb-2023
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Interesting response. That?s exactly what my stepdad said when he put our favorite cat in a pillow case and beat it to death against the garage wall in front of us six kids. He laughed and said, "Welcome to the real world." So odd you chose that phrase.
Comment from Rebecca Roberts1
If I had a penny for how many bad fathers there are out there I'd be rich.
It is a disease, bad fathers, and the cure is found in Jesus. The problem is pride. No one wants to admit they are bad fathers.
The better news is the ones who were hurt the most make the best fathers.
I'm glad you turned out to be one.
Thank you for the confession.
reply by the author on 11-Feb-2023
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If I had a penny for how many bad fathers there are out there I'd be rich.
It is a disease, bad fathers, and the cure is found in Jesus. The problem is pride. No one wants to admit they are bad fathers.
The better news is the ones who were hurt the most make the best fathers.
I'm glad you turned out to be one.
Thank you for the confession.
Comment Written 10-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 11-Feb-2023
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Thank you, Rebecca. It?s a sad state of affairs but I?m heading in the right direction.
Comment from JT traveller
"Then my father demanded my money and took it all, "for the trouble of raising me."
I can certainly relate. Sounds like you had parents like mine except they were not divorced.
This is a great read. I wrote a poem about my mother asking me to pay for the entire cost of my father's funeral, I offered half but it was never going to be enough. She became angry and abusive. Btw, I do have an older brother who could have helped out too. Strict conditions were imposed, I was not to contribute in any way except financially to the funeral and wake, I was not allowed to speak at the funeral for fear that I would, "Just upset others".
I posted the poem and the first review was so harsh and abusive that I cried. As a result I deleted it from my portfolio and from the contest.
Sorry to go on but your story really triggered me. My father passed away 3 years ago nearly to this day and my mother has not spoken to me since, even banning me from her house. But hey, it lead to me taking up poetry. Look on the bright side.
Have a great weekend and thankyou for sharing Douglas. Jacqueline
reply by the author on 10-Feb-2023
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"Then my father demanded my money and took it all, "for the trouble of raising me."
I can certainly relate. Sounds like you had parents like mine except they were not divorced.
This is a great read. I wrote a poem about my mother asking me to pay for the entire cost of my father's funeral, I offered half but it was never going to be enough. She became angry and abusive. Btw, I do have an older brother who could have helped out too. Strict conditions were imposed, I was not to contribute in any way except financially to the funeral and wake, I was not allowed to speak at the funeral for fear that I would, "Just upset others".
I posted the poem and the first review was so harsh and abusive that I cried. As a result I deleted it from my portfolio and from the contest.
Sorry to go on but your story really triggered me. My father passed away 3 years ago nearly to this day and my mother has not spoken to me since, even banning me from her house. But hey, it lead to me taking up poetry. Look on the bright side.
Have a great weekend and thankyou for sharing Douglas. Jacqueline
Comment Written 10-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 10-Feb-2023
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Unfortunately your story is all too common on here. Bad parents running amuck trying to screw up their kids. I received an incredible outpouring of response and put it in a piece called ?Fanstory Group Hug? I think some of those nuggets of wisdom in that write up are meant for you
There are good people on here. Don?t let one of the few wankers steal your experience. D
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Haha. YES! I love that term, "Wanker". Very apt. It made me laugh. I will attempt to find fantasy group hug. Thankyou once again Douglas. Jacqueline
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Fanstory Group Hug. It is on the sites 'Well Recieved front page. Probably not for much longer, but it will stay in my portfolio. It will be worth a peek for you. Put me on a good path!
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Thankyou. I did read and review it before but my heart was still torn between two conflicting opinions. In my heart I have forgiven but in my head I will never forget.
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Agreed. Safe travels.
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Thx Douglas 😊
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Vietnam next....
Comment from Spitfire
What an incredible story, Doug. My advice would have been to replace your anger with pity-- pity for Dean who must have had a bad life from the start to turn out the way he did. He may be a sociopath though. Did his eyes turn black when mad? I don't care what the Bible says some sins can't be forgiven and shouldn't be!
reply by the author on 10-Feb-2023
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What an incredible story, Doug. My advice would have been to replace your anger with pity-- pity for Dean who must have had a bad life from the start to turn out the way he did. He may be a sociopath though. Did his eyes turn black when mad? I don't care what the Bible says some sins can't be forgiven and shouldn't be!
Comment Written 10-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 10-Feb-2023
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Thank you for the advice. It?s hard to pity someone who terrified you as a child. Still, moving forward is where I am at now.
Comment from w.j.debi
I wish I had a six left for this one and for your "Hugs" post. They are both so full of sincerity and love.
You didn't have an easy childhood. How great that you decide to become the best dad ever to set a new standard. Your children are lucky.
reply by the author on 09-Feb-2023
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I wish I had a six left for this one and for your "Hugs" post. They are both so full of sincerity and love.
You didn't have an easy childhood. How great that you decide to become the best dad ever to set a new standard. Your children are lucky.
Comment Written 09-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 09-Feb-2023
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Thank you, Debi. I'll take your kind words over a six any day!
Comment from jmdg1954
First, it took courage to write this and I commend you for being able to get through it, however long it took to write.
I'm not sure if a person can actually forgive someone. Can you really ever stop blaming someone for their actions? God knows that you want to forgive, to me that should be enough! God knows your heart want to absolve this monster, because YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON! If you don't forgive, that doesn't make you any less of a good person then you are!
That's me saying this. I'm not in your shoes, I didn't live what you did.
Douglas, I will keep you in my prayers asking God to give you the strength and courage needed for you!
Be well my friend. I can offer you my email if you'd like to keep in contact for any reason. Totally up to you!
John
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2023
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First, it took courage to write this and I commend you for being able to get through it, however long it took to write.
I'm not sure if a person can actually forgive someone. Can you really ever stop blaming someone for their actions? God knows that you want to forgive, to me that should be enough! God knows your heart want to absolve this monster, because YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON! If you don't forgive, that doesn't make you any less of a good person then you are!
That's me saying this. I'm not in your shoes, I didn't live what you did.
Douglas, I will keep you in my prayers asking God to give you the strength and courage needed for you!
Be well my friend. I can offer you my email if you'd like to keep in contact for any reason. Totally up to you!
John
Comment Written 08-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2023
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Thank you for these awesome points! Prayers are always appreciated. Your email would be great, John.
D
Comment from royowen
The best advice I can give, is simply explaining to God your weakness, (He knows it anyway) and it says, "in your weakness I am strong" 2 Corinthians 12:9 Take one step towards God, (James 4:8-10) and He will run to you, (read the Prodigal son, Luke 15: 11-32) I had an abusive mother, and I'm still scarred from the memories, I was an athlete and my parents never came to a single game I played, nor a trophy presentation, but didn't mind the reflected glory. Dad was a bit of a wimp when it came to mum. My friend's dads were my mentors. I sympathise completely, I understand, I'm a good dad, (I think) went to all my daughters performances, and awards, my grands also, I know what it means to them, I adore them all. So, you and I are parallels in many ways. Give it to God, that's where it belongs Douglas. Bless you, I've prayed for you. Blessings Roy
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2023
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The best advice I can give, is simply explaining to God your weakness, (He knows it anyway) and it says, "in your weakness I am strong" 2 Corinthians 12:9 Take one step towards God, (James 4:8-10) and He will run to you, (read the Prodigal son, Luke 15: 11-32) I had an abusive mother, and I'm still scarred from the memories, I was an athlete and my parents never came to a single game I played, nor a trophy presentation, but didn't mind the reflected glory. Dad was a bit of a wimp when it came to mum. My friend's dads were my mentors. I sympathise completely, I understand, I'm a good dad, (I think) went to all my daughters performances, and awards, my grands also, I know what it means to them, I adore them all. So, you and I are parallels in many ways. Give it to God, that's where it belongs Douglas. Bless you, I've prayed for you. Blessings Roy
Comment Written 08-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2023
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Seems like we are kindred spirits, my friend, although you are a much better poet!
You are the first to provide some scriptures to look up, which I shall do! Thank you!
Check out Fanstory Group Hug to see the incredible outpouring of Christian love that I received for this story. Very heartwarming!
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Bless you Douglas
Comment from Miranda Langston
Oh my GODS :O Both of them sound like complete pieces of s***. One of your siblings was really made to eat their own vomit??!? I'm proud of you for hanging in there and making it through those situations, as well as for saving your mother. Thank you very much for your service, too, by the way. You are a very powerful author and it's easy to see why this one won the contest.
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2023
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Oh my GODS :O Both of them sound like complete pieces of s***. One of your siblings was really made to eat their own vomit??!? I'm proud of you for hanging in there and making it through those situations, as well as for saving your mother. Thank you very much for your service, too, by the way. You are a very powerful author and it's easy to see why this one won the contest.
Comment Written 08-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2023
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Thanks for the awesome rating and great words! Yes, unfortunately my sister was made to eat liver that she spit back up after being forced to eat it. Some bad stuff happened in that house.
Comment from Janilou
What a heart-wrenching story this is. :-(
I don't know what to say, but you deserve six stars for this.
No, time doesn't heal all wounds and I wish I had an answer, but some pain lasts forever.
You say you haven't forgiven him, but it seems to me that you actually have in a way. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting the pain or condoning his actions. The fact that you were able to parent your own children in a positive and loving way might be the only forgiveness you need to extend - that you were able to forgive him enough not to become like him.
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Later in life, my birth father apologized to me, saying e had no idea what we were going through with Dean.
should this read
saying he had no idea
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I wish you every happiness.
Jan
reply by the author on 04-Feb-2023
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What a heart-wrenching story this is. :-(
I don't know what to say, but you deserve six stars for this.
No, time doesn't heal all wounds and I wish I had an answer, but some pain lasts forever.
You say you haven't forgiven him, but it seems to me that you actually have in a way. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting the pain or condoning his actions. The fact that you were able to parent your own children in a positive and loving way might be the only forgiveness you need to extend - that you were able to forgive him enough not to become like him.
Notes:
Later in life, my birth father apologized to me, saying e had no idea what we were going through with Dean.
should this read
saying he had no idea
?
I wish you every happiness.
Jan
Comment Written 03-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 04-Feb-2023
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Thank you Janilou. This is very good advice. I appreciate your great rating and your very kind words!
Comment from LJbutterfly
This is a phenomenal story of betrayal, hopefulness, disappointment, and success in your achievements. Congratulations on your well deserved contest win. You have written a clear description of why you have not forgiven, and why you think you should forgive but can't.
I'm sure other reviewers have given you their thoughts on forgiveness. All I can say is forgiveness is between you and God. Also, forgiveness takes a major burden off your shoulders. Thank you for sharing this very personal story.
reply by the author on 03-Feb-2023
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This is a phenomenal story of betrayal, hopefulness, disappointment, and success in your achievements. Congratulations on your well deserved contest win. You have written a clear description of why you have not forgiven, and why you think you should forgive but can't.
I'm sure other reviewers have given you their thoughts on forgiveness. All I can say is forgiveness is between you and God. Also, forgiveness takes a major burden off your shoulders. Thank you for sharing this very personal story.
Comment Written 03-Feb-2023
reply by the author on 03-Feb-2023
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Thank you for the great review and stars, but a bigger thanks for your warm kind words. You are a blessing!
