Hospice Heart
Viewing comments for Chapter 10 "The Hardest Deaths"This is a biography of a hospice nurse--me
10 total reviews
Comment from Teri7
This is so very well written. You used great descriptive words and with love from your heart. They were blessed to have you as a hospice nurse. It was hard for me when I found my mother dead in her room at the little hospital here where we live. It was expected, but it doesn't matter. It hurts to love a loved one, especially a mother. love and blessings and I hope your life gets better and better! Teri
reply by the author on 02-Sep-2023
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This is so very well written. You used great descriptive words and with love from your heart. They were blessed to have you as a hospice nurse. It was hard for me when I found my mother dead in her room at the little hospital here where we live. It was expected, but it doesn't matter. It hurts to love a loved one, especially a mother. love and blessings and I hope your life gets better and better! Teri
Comment Written 31-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 02-Sep-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. It is hard when you lose a loved one, and it will always be hard, I am so sorry you had to find your mom that way, and no one should have to go through that.
Comment from BethShelby
This is interesting and well written.
What triggers the emotions are hard from me to understand. I don't react like normal person would. I was there my my 2 month old baby passed from a DPT injection. I was there when my mother died, I was there when my father died. I was there my husband of 61 years died. I was with them all for days. I loved them all but I couldn't cry. But a week after my husband died I had to put my little chihuahua down that had been with me for 19 years, I wept like there was no tomorrow. It was like I was just getting around to crying for everyone I'd lost.
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2023
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This is interesting and well written.
What triggers the emotions are hard from me to understand. I don't react like normal person would. I was there my my 2 month old baby passed from a DPT injection. I was there when my mother died, I was there when my father died. I was there my husband of 61 years died. I was with them all for days. I loved them all but I couldn't cry. But a week after my husband died I had to put my little chihuahua down that had been with me for 19 years, I wept like there was no tomorrow. It was like I was just getting around to crying for everyone I'd lost.
Comment Written 26-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. Everyone grieves differently and you have the right to react and feel however you do or did at the time. As far as crying later one that is not unusual. I would guess you are a strong individual and felt the need to be that way when your loved ones passed. I didn't cry when y passed, because I was trying to be there for my father and my children. It was 2 months later it hit me and I stated crying sitting on the commode.
Comment from eliz100
This is another excellent chapter. As a nurse, I can identify with your situations. Some patients get into your heart, no matter how professional you are. I do not see any room for improvement. Have a blessed day.
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2023
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This is another excellent chapter. As a nurse, I can identify with your situations. Some patients get into your heart, no matter how professional you are. I do not see any room for improvement. Have a blessed day.
Comment Written 26-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. I appreciate your words and rating.
Comment from karenina
As an RN, retired, of 35 years I have always felt it was an immense privilege to attend to the needs of the dying, and their loved ones.
It's not for everyone, I understand. Many a fellow nurse chanted "Not on MY shift!"
Thank you for sharing not the clinical, but the deeply personal, emotional, psychological aspect of the experience.
Throughout your thirteen years it is clear to me you were dedicated to helping your patients live well...and die well.
I'm sorry your injuries have curtailed this part of your career.
I'm so proud you admitted that you wept! Of course we weep! If ever we became so hardened, tears were not imminent what horrid caretakers we would be!
I'm sure you have some incredible stories of end of life experiences...
The time may come that sharing those would be therapeutic for reader and writer alike.
My condolences on the loss of your mom...
Keep writing!
Karenina
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2023
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As an RN, retired, of 35 years I have always felt it was an immense privilege to attend to the needs of the dying, and their loved ones.
It's not for everyone, I understand. Many a fellow nurse chanted "Not on MY shift!"
Thank you for sharing not the clinical, but the deeply personal, emotional, psychological aspect of the experience.
Throughout your thirteen years it is clear to me you were dedicated to helping your patients live well...and die well.
I'm sorry your injuries have curtailed this part of your career.
I'm so proud you admitted that you wept! Of course we weep! If ever we became so hardened, tears were not imminent what horrid caretakers we would be!
I'm sure you have some incredible stories of end of life experiences...
The time may come that sharing those would be therapeutic for reader and writer alike.
My condolences on the loss of your mom...
Keep writing!
Karenina
Comment Written 26-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. This is the last chapter in a book I have written, and you can read the stories that have been shared on FanStory. Thank you for your kind words.
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I will bookcase this to remind me to circle back and read more of your work!
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Thank you and I hope you enjoy every story.
Comment from mermaids
I am a nurse in a nursing home and I have worked with hospice. I can relate to your words. We are human and those of us who work in end of life care will be affected from time to time. I commend you for your years of nursing and your dedication to your patients. Excellent writing here and a story that needs to be told.
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2023
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I am a nurse in a nursing home and I have worked with hospice. I can relate to your words. We are human and those of us who work in end of life care will be affected from time to time. I commend you for your years of nursing and your dedication to your patients. Excellent writing here and a story that needs to be told.
Comment Written 25-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 26-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. There are other stories I have shared on FanStory. This was the last chapter in a book I am o the process of publishing. It is called a Hospice Heart.
Comment from Wayne Fowler
I'm sorry that you can no longer work in a position that was obviously very meaningful to you.
You wrote the story very well. Good work and best wishes.
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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I'm sorry that you can no longer work in a position that was obviously very meaningful to you.
You wrote the story very well. Good work and best wishes.
Comment Written 24-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. I appreciate your words and wishes.
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
This is a beautifully written story that reduced me to tears! It is such a sad account about the first death but especially the deep empathy you felt for the son left behind. The other death was of course a symbolic one for you of your career coming to an end. This would never have been an easy chapter for you to write it but you accomplished this without unnecessary sentimentality or mawkish detail. Instead, there is a purity and a complete respect that is so well conveyed. That you have transitioned to the other side of hospice care, yourself, is an added sadness here and, once again, you include it here without fuss or focal attention so that it almost slips under the wire. You are a very courageous man who has done an amazing job and I wish you all the very best in your time ahead. Take care Debbie
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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This is a beautifully written story that reduced me to tears! It is such a sad account about the first death but especially the deep empathy you felt for the son left behind. The other death was of course a symbolic one for you of your career coming to an end. This would never have been an easy chapter for you to write it but you accomplished this without unnecessary sentimentality or mawkish detail. Instead, there is a purity and a complete respect that is so well conveyed. That you have transitioned to the other side of hospice care, yourself, is an added sadness here and, once again, you include it here without fuss or focal attention so that it almost slips under the wire. You are a very courageous man who has done an amazing job and I wish you all the very best in your time ahead. Take care Debbie
Comment Written 24-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. I appreciate your words and well wishes. It was a hard chapter to write, but it needed to be written to end the book.
Comment from LJbutterfly
It is always emotional when you realize you have reached an end of an era or stage of your life. You have given an excellent explanation for why two deaths had a lasting effect on you as a hospice nurse. Your detailed descriptions helped the reader understand what it is like constantly dealing with death. God blessed you with a special gift of compassion, as He blessed those whom you served. May He continue to bless you. Amen.
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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It is always emotional when you realize you have reached an end of an era or stage of your life. You have given an excellent explanation for why two deaths had a lasting effect on you as a hospice nurse. Your detailed descriptions helped the reader understand what it is like constantly dealing with death. God blessed you with a special gift of compassion, as He blessed those whom you served. May He continue to bless you. Amen.
Comment Written 24-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your wonderful review. I appreciate your kind words and blessings.
Comment from Ulla
I can see why this would be hard you. First a young losing his mom, so close to you losing your own mom and then the last death that also meant your career had come to an end. Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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I can see why this would be hard you. First a young losing his mom, so close to you losing your own mom and then the last death that also meant your career had come to an end. Ulla:)))
Comment Written 24-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. Thank you for understanding the chapter.
Comment from barbara.wilkey
I can understand the last chapter, but please don't let it be end of your writing. Thank you for sharing this with us and I could feel the emotion.
It was emotional for me and it took everything in me (the first 'for me' can be omitted for a smoother read.)
Her husband son, and mother-in-law never left her side. (comma after 'husband')
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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I can understand the last chapter, but please don't let it be end of your writing. Thank you for sharing this with us and I could feel the emotion.
It was emotional for me and it took everything in me (the first 'for me' can be omitted for a smoother read.)
Her husband son, and mother-in-law never left her side. (comma after 'husband')
Comment Written 24-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 25-Aug-2023
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Thank you for reading and for your review. I will make the change thanks. It is not the end of my writing only the beginning. I am working on another book. I also have a notebook of ideas that I haven't re looked at for a while.
