Regrets
The Loss Of My Sons42 total reviews
Comment from William Stephenson1
This has potential for more story. 1. What do you think you are missing, not being a grandmother? And what do you think they are missing from not having you as a grandma?
2. If your children had grown to be of age, what do you think they would be like?
3. Fantacize and then write about it: If you had a grandson, what would you want him to know about you. What would you do to get him to know you and trust you. To love you.
4. The same with a granddaughter.
5. Are there any places in your community where you could become a surogatge grandma? A homeless shelter; Young people living on the streets with a child.
I've seen this happen. -Bill
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2024
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This has potential for more story. 1. What do you think you are missing, not being a grandmother? And what do you think they are missing from not having you as a grandma?
2. If your children had grown to be of age, what do you think they would be like?
3. Fantacize and then write about it: If you had a grandson, what would you want him to know about you. What would you do to get him to know you and trust you. To love you.
4. The same with a granddaughter.
5. Are there any places in your community where you could become a surogatge grandma? A homeless shelter; Young people living on the streets with a child.
I've seen this happen. -Bill
Comment Written 15-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2024
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I have become the surrogate mother of cats. I just lost my twenty-two-year-old cat, Blosson, and it was just as painful as losing my children in earlier years. I want to leave the past in the past. It's how I have managed to survive, but thanks for the suggestions.
Comment from nomi338
According to the Bible God remembers every person who has ever lived and the day is going to come when he long to see the work of his own hand. What this means is there will be a resurrection. Those who never got the chance to choose between his way and Satan's way will be given the chance to make that choice. What this means for you and your sons is a very real possibility of living on earth in perfection forever. Free of pain, suffering and also free from the threat of death, for ever.
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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According to the Bible God remembers every person who has ever lived and the day is going to come when he long to see the work of his own hand. What this means is there will be a resurrection. Those who never got the chance to choose between his way and Satan's way will be given the chance to make that choice. What this means for you and your sons is a very real possibility of living on earth in perfection forever. Free of pain, suffering and also free from the threat of death, for ever.
Comment Written 16-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I believe that everything happens for a reason, even if we can't understand why. We preset our lives before coming to this planet and choose when to leave. I don't know why my sons chose to come for such a brief time, but I'm sure I will someday. I have made my peace with God and am content now.
Comment from BethShelby
I am pretty satisfied with my life too. I do have four children. My grandchildren are grown and I seldom see them and I never really got to know them quite as well as some know their grandchildren. I don't have any debt and I live alone and like it that way. I want to stay independant as long as possible. I lost a child at two months and my son has almost dieid several time but thankfully he didn't. Life is good today. Who knows what tomorrow might bring.
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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I am pretty satisfied with my life too. I do have four children. My grandchildren are grown and I seldom see them and I never really got to know them quite as well as some know their grandchildren. I don't have any debt and I live alone and like it that way. I want to stay independant as long as possible. I lost a child at two months and my son has almost dieid several time but thankfully he didn't. Life is good today. Who knows what tomorrow might bring.
Comment Written 16-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Thank you. You have a wonderful outlook on life. I feel much like you; I intend to care for myself until the end of my days. I have to live to be ninety so I can stick around to care for my youngest cat. He is only six, and my cats tend to have long lives. He happens to be one of those cats that has nothing to do with anyone else, a one-person animal. I don't know how well he would do without me.
Comment from estory
This essay reads as an honest assessment of a life. A life with its triumphs and tragedies, maybe more tragedies than triumphs. It touches on themes of the importance of relationships, the need for companionship, loneliness. The personal tone of the language and the from the hip execution, laced with subtle emotion, make this piece quite poignant. I think it might serve as a blueprint for a novel. There's a good novel buried in the raw block of material in this essay, if you have the courage to chisel it out. estory
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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This essay reads as an honest assessment of a life. A life with its triumphs and tragedies, maybe more tragedies than triumphs. It touches on themes of the importance of relationships, the need for companionship, loneliness. The personal tone of the language and the from the hip execution, laced with subtle emotion, make this piece quite poignant. I think it might serve as a blueprint for a novel. There's a good novel buried in the raw block of material in this essay, if you have the courage to chisel it out. estory
Comment Written 16-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I would not have the courage to relive all those tragedies over again. I have come to terms with everything after a long mental struggle, so I do not wish to go there again. It would make an interesting story if written properly.
Comment from jmdg1954
Author,
I am sorry for your losses for sure, that in a sense gives you that much more to give to you sixteen year old. God works mysteriously and has a plan. It just has not been shared with you yet.
Good luck in the {satisfaction} contest.
John
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Author,
I am sorry for your losses for sure, that in a sense gives you that much more to give to you sixteen year old. God works mysteriously and has a plan. It just has not been shared with you yet.
Good luck in the {satisfaction} contest.
John
Comment Written 16-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I agree. I believe we preset our lives, and all that happens is destiny. I don't know why my sons chose to come to me for such a brief time, but there must have been a reason. Perhaps we will meet again in another lifetime; we may not remember this life, but I believe we often come back with the same people to learn whatever it is we need to learn here on earth.
Comment from John Ciarmello
There is no way to justify the tragedy of this piece as a reader and I know you've heard enough condolences to last a lifetime, Pbb.
I will say time spent with a loved one is always precious and memories are always cherished. However some never make there way to the screen and are reminiscent of the broken reel of tape within a movie projector.
All we can do is remember what we've watched and play it in our minds as many times as we need to.
I loved this! Best, JohnC
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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There is no way to justify the tragedy of this piece as a reader and I know you've heard enough condolences to last a lifetime, Pbb.
I will say time spent with a loved one is always precious and memories are always cherished. However some never make there way to the screen and are reminiscent of the broken reel of tape within a movie projector.
All we can do is remember what we've watched and play it in our minds as many times as we need to.
I loved this! Best, JohnC
Comment Written 16-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Thank you. We are here on earth to learn certain lessons. We also preset our lives before we come here to live. I don't know why my sons made such brief appearances, but I'm sure there is a reason.
Comment from Annmuma
Indeed you will see your boys again some day and then you will see through a glass clearly. This life will make sense when we reach the next one. I wish you joy and peace. ann
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Indeed you will see your boys again some day and then you will see through a glass clearly. This life will make sense when we reach the next one. I wish you joy and peace. ann
Comment Written 16-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I agree. We are all here to learn whatever lessons we need to learn. I firmly believe we preset our lives and experiences before we begin each new lifetime. There must be a reason why I lost the boys, and they must have determined their short lives on this planet before they came. This may sound strange to some, but it is how I believe.
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It is how I believe as well. AMEN
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Most people look at me like I'm nuts when I tell them how I believe. It is that belief which kept me sane all these years. I don't know why, but I will find out one day.
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
This is a sad and touching write and I am so sorry for your loss and life can be so cruel at times. Some have large families with lots of Grandchildren and then there are those who never have that chance. I feel very fortunate to have four Grandchildren and my eldest is nineteen, so there is a chance I could be Great grandmother one day. I do know what it is like to live alone and I do everything for myself with little help from others. I felt your emotion here, although I thin you have come to terms with your life now and you do have your niece to share happy times with, love Dolly x x x
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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This is a sad and touching write and I am so sorry for your loss and life can be so cruel at times. Some have large families with lots of Grandchildren and then there are those who never have that chance. I feel very fortunate to have four Grandchildren and my eldest is nineteen, so there is a chance I could be Great grandmother one day. I do know what it is like to live alone and I do everything for myself with little help from others. I felt your emotion here, although I thin you have come to terms with your life now and you do have your niece to share happy times with, love Dolly x x x
Comment Written 16-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Thank you. Yes, I am okay with life now. I hear what you say about some having large families and some not. My mother had twelve children and never lost one. When she passed away at age seventy-three, she had over fifty grandchildren, and I don't recall how many great-grandchildren. You are fortunate to have such a lovely family.
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Wow, you did come from a large family x x x
Comment from Liz O'Neill
Funny, I'm 76 trombones and you are 77 Sunset Strip. That'll be me next February. The universe shines on me also. I'm in fine health. I believe I have Neanderthal genomes. I'm never sick but due to their gift of a strong immune system, I get horrible allergies from the histamine reaction. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Funny, I'm 76 trombones and you are 77 Sunset Strip. That'll be me next February. The universe shines on me also. I'm in fine health. I believe I have Neanderthal genomes. I'm never sick but due to their gift of a strong immune system, I get horrible allergies from the histamine reaction. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability
Comment Written 16-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 16-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I never get colds, flu, or stuff like that. I did have a heart attack when I was fifty-four, but all they did was put in one stent, and I have been fine since. The doctors are amazed as it seems my heart disease has completely reversed itself. There is no sign of it now. I'm not surprised; when you will something hard enough and never think of the opposite, it most often comes true.
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Very cool...I always say, "thank the Neanderthals" I can't send you any links , but if you looked up Thank Neanderthals for your immune system.
Comment from Elaine Westheimer
A sincere though sad story. You write in a straightforward factual way so it doesn't read as overly sentimental. I'm glad your life is peaceful now and that you have your cats for company. If I weren't allergic to them I'd love to have a bit of purring in my life too.
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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A sincere though sad story. You write in a straightforward factual way so it doesn't read as overly sentimental. I'm glad your life is peaceful now and that you have your cats for company. If I weren't allergic to them I'd love to have a bit of purring in my life too.
Comment Written 15-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you. One can roll with the punches or curl up and die when life gets tough. I considered taking the first option for a while, but an angel came and saved my life. Read my story, My Angel My Son. In a later year, I learned of a releasing technique that really helped, too.
