Dear Son
A Mother's Feeling of Hopelessness and Hope8 total reviews
Comment from globalangel
So sad......but see him through new eyes as cleansed of his habit and see him in your minds eye as fit and well,
happy and healthy and the loving little boy that he once was. Inside this poor lost soul is that little boy waiting to get out and be recognised. Just love him for he knows not how he hurts you all. Your poem was poignant and passionate...but oh so sad. I have been there and I know how you feel. Just love him. globalangel
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2010
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So sad......but see him through new eyes as cleansed of his habit and see him in your minds eye as fit and well,
happy and healthy and the loving little boy that he once was. Inside this poor lost soul is that little boy waiting to get out and be recognised. Just love him for he knows not how he hurts you all. Your poem was poignant and passionate...but oh so sad. I have been there and I know how you feel. Just love him. globalangel
Comment Written 06-Aug-2010
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2010
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After more than 25 years of abuse, it is wearing very thin, my friend. We used to support him, only to be abused time and time again.
Have you downgraded this because you think I don't love my son? Or do you have some suggestions on how I could improve it?
Thanks for the review. Warmest regards.
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Yes I can appreciate how difficuolt it is for you. No I haven't downgraded you for this. I know how3 much you must love him and I know how this abuse can make y9ou lose repect for people ans fall out of loving them too. I wish I knew more so that I could help you. But I am not experienced enough in counselling. Sorry! Warmest regards x
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I am no longer looking for counselling, my friend, but thank you for your encouragement. Warmest regards, Marijke xxx :o)
Comment from zmacgirl
Don't give up hope because one day's do come. Once upon a time I was like your son, living the same life and hurt my family but didn't realize it at the time. They had nothing to do with me so how could I hurt them, I thought. Now that I am sober, have chosen a different life I understand why they kept me out of theirs. Hopefully one day your son will understand too. He doesn't hurt you because he wants to but drugs take hold and screw up all perception. I wish you the best and share this with you in the hope that it will give you something to hold on to. Because that One Day can come. Best Wishes, Christian.
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2010
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Don't give up hope because one day's do come. Once upon a time I was like your son, living the same life and hurt my family but didn't realize it at the time. They had nothing to do with me so how could I hurt them, I thought. Now that I am sober, have chosen a different life I understand why they kept me out of theirs. Hopefully one day your son will understand too. He doesn't hurt you because he wants to but drugs take hold and screw up all perception. I wish you the best and share this with you in the hope that it will give you something to hold on to. Because that One Day can come. Best Wishes, Christian.
Comment Written 06-Aug-2010
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2010
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After 25 plus years, I am giving up hope this will happen, my friend. Thank you Christian, I do hope so ....
Warmest regards, Marijke
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I'm sorry he's been gone so long. I know what you're going through because I see now what I did to my family. They still don't talk to me even tho I've totally turned my life around. Somethings get broke and cant be fixed. I wish I could say something that would help but just know that you're in my prayers.
Comment from jester97
I'd actually rather give you some advice about your son than review th poem, but that's hardly the place for it. All I can though is that if his addiction is natural and green then you should support him - you'll be surprised the difference the UNCONDITIONAL support makes. However if it's meth then he needs professional help. Now on to your poem, obvioulsy a very emotional subject for you and you've captured it well.
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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I'd actually rather give you some advice about your son than review th poem, but that's hardly the place for it. All I can though is that if his addiction is natural and green then you should support him - you'll be surprised the difference the UNCONDITIONAL support makes. However if it's meth then he needs professional help. Now on to your poem, obvioulsy a very emotional subject for you and you've captured it well.
Comment Written 05-Aug-2010
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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Thank you, Jester. I know about unconditional love, my friend, but after much abuse and twenty odd years of it, it is difficult to continue. He needs professional help, but refuses. Thanks for your compassion. I, too, need to survive, as does my husband, and his beautiful, innocent children, the ultimate victims of his obvious personality disorder.
Warmest regards.
Comment from Melba
This is such a heart touching poem. When your son is caught in a life style that takes him away from his family emotionally. It is well expressed and you can feel the heart ache that is felt. There is so much despair felt when you don't know what to do or how to stop the pain.
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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This is such a heart touching poem. When your son is caught in a life style that takes him away from his family emotionally. It is well expressed and you can feel the heart ache that is felt. There is so much despair felt when you don't know what to do or how to stop the pain.
Comment Written 05-Aug-2010
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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Hi Melba, thank you for your compassionate review and summation of the feelings of a mother. It is an emotional roller-coaster. Warmest regards.
Comment from adewpearl
typo - you can't comprehend how YOU actions - your
What an emotionally intense poem, Marijke - and what a tragic situation. You convey SO effectively why the speaker is upset with her son's irresponsible and abusive behavior - especially when you point out he is hurting her grandchildren, his own precious children. I was totally gripped by the emotions of this piece. Brooke
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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typo - you can't comprehend how YOU actions - your
What an emotionally intense poem, Marijke - and what a tragic situation. You convey SO effectively why the speaker is upset with her son's irresponsible and abusive behavior - especially when you point out he is hurting her grandchildren, his own precious children. I was totally gripped by the emotions of this piece. Brooke
Comment Written 05-Aug-2010
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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Hi Brooke, thank you for your compassionate review and summation of the feelings of a mother. It is an emotional roller-coaster (this is my story - unfortunatly). Warmest regards.
Comment from daniela.albu
An original poem in format, and moving in contents. By its format, the poem resembles a letter written to a son lost to drug addiction. There is hope, a feeble hope that things will get right. The last stanza reveals how the mother can still see the frightened little boy who is in pain and lost the battle with real life.
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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An original poem in format, and moving in contents. By its format, the poem resembles a letter written to a son lost to drug addiction. There is hope, a feeble hope that things will get right. The last stanza reveals how the mother can still see the frightened little boy who is in pain and lost the battle with real life.
Comment Written 05-Aug-2010
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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Hi Daniela, thank you for your compassionate review and summation of the feelings of a mother. It is an emotional roller-coaster. Warmest regards.
Comment from marcellawachtel
What profound pain the writer is experiencing as she tries to communicate with her drug-addicted son! The very fact that she can doubt her love for him shows the reader the depth of her despair. Written clearly and simply and very effectively tells the bitter story.
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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What profound pain the writer is experiencing as she tries to communicate with her drug-addicted son! The very fact that she can doubt her love for him shows the reader the depth of her despair. Written clearly and simply and very effectively tells the bitter story.
Comment Written 05-Aug-2010
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2010
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Thank you Marcella, and yes, this came from the heart. If only I could send this to him, but I know he doesn't want to hear this. Maybe one day... Warmest regards
Comment from Amfunny
Oh, this is a great heart-wretching poem. I enjoyed reading and reviewing this. I found it to be honest and truthful and could feel what the author was feeling. Great writing.
reply by the author on 04-Aug-2010
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Oh, this is a great heart-wretching poem. I enjoyed reading and reviewing this. I found it to be honest and truthful and could feel what the author was feeling. Great writing.
Comment Written 04-Aug-2010
reply by the author on 04-Aug-2010
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Thank you, as this comes from my heart. I appreciate your comments, and thank you for your generous review. Warmest regards.