Remembering Yesterday
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Comment from alexisleech
You wrote about this terrible tragedy with honesty and heart-felt emotion. I'm so sorry you had to endure the loss of a child. When they are so little, they are so vulnerable, and parents can often abandon the idea of having more children because the pain is so great. I'm so glad you realised you were made to have children and love them with all your heart. Beautifully written, as always.
Alexis xxx
Your feeling[s] run too deep to come to the surface as well.
reply by the author on 31-Dec-2020
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You wrote about this terrible tragedy with honesty and heart-felt emotion. I'm so sorry you had to endure the loss of a child. When they are so little, they are so vulnerable, and parents can often abandon the idea of having more children because the pain is so great. I'm so glad you realised you were made to have children and love them with all your heart. Beautifully written, as always.
Alexis xxx
Your feeling[s] run too deep to come to the surface as well.
Comment Written 31-Dec-2020
reply by the author on 31-Dec-2020
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. That was a hard chapter to write because it was a very emotional time for us.
Beth
Comment from Ricky1024
This was very well written and rich in Theme and Imagery.
It read Welland flowed well with No Grammar Issues.
Complete Synopsis:
The Adjective and Objective Contents were both Excellent and Exceptional while Descriptive Measures Aligned Perfectly.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky1024
reply by the author on 26-Apr-2020
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This was very well written and rich in Theme and Imagery.
It read Welland flowed well with No Grammar Issues.
Complete Synopsis:
The Adjective and Objective Contents were both Excellent and Exceptional while Descriptive Measures Aligned Perfectly.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky1024
Comment Written 26-Apr-2020
reply by the author on 26-Apr-2020
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Thank you very much for reading and commenting on this chapter.
I enjoyed your comments.
Beth
Comment from Monica Chaddick
I truly enjoyed your writing. Your story flows well and brings the reader in almost immediately. I have a friend that lost a child a bit younger than the one in your story, and I remember how flat she sounded when she called me with the news. Very moving!
reply by the author on 07-Apr-2020
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I truly enjoyed your writing. Your story flows well and brings the reader in almost immediately. I have a friend that lost a child a bit younger than the one in your story, and I remember how flat she sounded when she called me with the news. Very moving!
Comment Written 07-Apr-2020
reply by the author on 07-Apr-2020
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Thank you for the review and you nice comment. I appreciate you going back and reading this even though it wasn't paying.
Beth
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
Congrats on your well-deserved prize. This piece is devastating. Your masterful underplay serves to enhance the devastation wrought by these dreadful events. You not only explicitly say, but also your words per se convey the numbness of auto-pilot. LIZ
reply by the author on 07-Apr-2020
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Congrats on your well-deserved prize. This piece is devastating. Your masterful underplay serves to enhance the devastation wrought by these dreadful events. You not only explicitly say, but also your words per se convey the numbness of auto-pilot. LIZ
Comment Written 06-Apr-2020
reply by the author on 07-Apr-2020
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Thank you for going back and reading this. Actually there was no prize. I didn't even get a kudos from FanStory until it was to see my name as third place winner. The winner get twenty-five dollars in play money and that the only prize. This was low point in my life.
Betj
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Doesn't get any lower than that.
Comment from Rosemary Everson1
Sometimes in trying times, we do get through our most difficult times in life. I'm so glad that you ended up having more children. I'm sure losing your beautiful baby at two months was devastating.
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2020
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Sometimes in trying times, we do get through our most difficult times in life. I'm so glad that you ended up having more children. I'm sure losing your beautiful baby at two months was devastating.
Comment Written 26-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2020
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. It was a bad time but it my life so I had to write about.
Beth
Comment from Ulla
Beth, this is so beautifully written and it deals with something we as mothers and parents always fear: the death of a baby or our child. You have described your grief in a way that had me in tears. As a mother myself, I'm there with you. We very nearly lost our only daughter when she was three years old. I remember the fear and the numbness as you so well describe. At the very last moment, a retired doctor found the cure in some obscure book which dealt with rare deceases. Had it not been for him, she would have died
and we went back the hospital. = and we went back to the hospital.
Warm regards. Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 24-Mar-2020
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Beth, this is so beautifully written and it deals with something we as mothers and parents always fear: the death of a baby or our child. You have described your grief in a way that had me in tears. As a mother myself, I'm there with you. We very nearly lost our only daughter when she was three years old. I remember the fear and the numbness as you so well describe. At the very last moment, a retired doctor found the cure in some obscure book which dealt with rare deceases. Had it not been for him, she would have died
and we went back the hospital. = and we went back to the hospital.
Warm regards. Ulla:)))
Comment Written 24-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 24-Mar-2020
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I'm so glad your doctore found a cure and you didn't lose your child. Having children is full of worries when something goes wrong but it is worth it. Thank you again for the six stars.
Beth
Comment from Suzanna Ray
Dear Beth, as you said, your feelings come out on paper as you write, and how deep those feelings run, even now!
Thank you for sharing this part of your story, for it, like the happy times, are part of our life cycle.
reply by the author on 23-Mar-2020
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Dear Beth, as you said, your feelings come out on paper as you write, and how deep those feelings run, even now!
Thank you for sharing this part of your story, for it, like the happy times, are part of our life cycle.
Comment Written 23-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 23-Mar-2020
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Thank you for the review and comments. I dreaded writing this chapter because people like feel good stories but as you say it is part of the life cycle. For the most part, I've had an exceptionally good life.
Beth
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I am glad That you have realized that. Otherwise you would be frozen with bitterness and would not be able to write at all !
Comment from nancy_e_davis
My brothers son had a reaction to a DPT shot about that same time. I caused him to have so many seizure's he became retarded. He was almost walking and perfectly normal before that shot. I want to add, I handle death the same way. It sounded as though you were describing me and the way I acted after the death of my Mother, Father, and my husband. I over came my grief with poetry as well when Jim died.
This was well written, Beth. Stay safe. Nancy:)
reply by the author on 23-Mar-2020
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My brothers son had a reaction to a DPT shot about that same time. I caused him to have so many seizure's he became retarded. He was almost walking and perfectly normal before that shot. I want to add, I handle death the same way. It sounded as though you were describing me and the way I acted after the death of my Mother, Father, and my husband. I over came my grief with poetry as well when Jim died.
This was well written, Beth. Stay safe. Nancy:)
Comment Written 23-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 23-Mar-2020
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Thank you Nancy for the review and comments Susan would have been brain damaged if she had lived. I knew two other families in the same place and same time period who lost children after giving them the shots. In 1997 the vaccine company paid compensation to all of us who could prove the DPT cause encephalitis in their child. Because we let them do the autopsy, we were able to prove it.
It is interesting you deal with grief the same way as I do.
Beth
Comment from Sankey
This was a good, interesting in some ways and sad chapter. I am not sure if we have viewing here before funeral services. I have never viewed anyone after death. Now the first one is not your fault. Background
from previous chapter: "I went home with Mother and went to bed with a heavy heart. I was afraid my baby wouldn�???�??�?�¢??t last the night." The error in this is FS anomaly not your fault.
There was no consci(ous)[ence]
I[t](n) spite of my prayers
but she was endowed with (a)healthy dose
reply by the author on 23-Mar-2020
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This was a good, interesting in some ways and sad chapter. I am not sure if we have viewing here before funeral services. I have never viewed anyone after death. Now the first one is not your fault. Background
from previous chapter: "I went home with Mother and went to bed with a heavy heart. I was afraid my baby wouldn�???�??�?�¢??t last the night." The error in this is FS anomaly not your fault.
There was no consci(ous)[ence]
I[t](n) spite of my prayers
but she was endowed with (a)healthy dose
Comment Written 23-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 23-Mar-2020
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Thank you for the 6 star review and thank you for catching my mistakes. As for a viewing, that has always been done in this country unless the body is in horrible condition and then there might be a closed casket. The body is always made up to look almost alive and healthy. I guess it helps the family remember then as they were. I assumed it was that way everywhere. However now a lot of people are cremating and in that case sometimes there is a later memorial service with pictures of the loved one.
Comment from forestport12
Beth. This was gripping, soul stirring. I felt your pain and loss, and then I heard your faith. Hard to imagine this happened on Good Friday. Without the resurrection our faith is vain. What God brought you through. It seemed your faith never wavered. This should be a chapter of the month list.
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Beth. This was gripping, soul stirring. I felt your pain and loss, and then I heard your faith. Hard to imagine this happened on Good Friday. Without the resurrection our faith is vain. What God brought you through. It seemed your faith never wavered. This should be a chapter of the month list.
Comment Written 22-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Thnak you so much for the review and the comments. I really appreciate your comments. I'm very grateful for the six stars.
