Remembering Yesterday
Viewing comments for Chapter 22 "Dealing With Grief"A widow's journey into her relationship with her
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Comment from Spitfire
Amazing chapter. I got caught up in your painful loss and quiet grief. Bad time for you husband to yell at you though, but I could understand both points of view.
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Amazing chapter. I got caught up in your painful loss and quiet grief. Bad time for you husband to yell at you though, but I could understand both points of view.
Comment Written 22-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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I really appreciate you reading every one of them to catch up. I hate to write things that are not upbeat. I rather make people laugh. But this is life and we have our up and and downs. I truly appreciate the six star revies.
Beth
Comment from royowen
Something that resonated deeply with me, was the way you process your grief or you joy, it's in writing, I have many epitaphs and tributes for people, when the pass or other events, because, like you, I'm wired that way, God knew us before time, and He wired us according to our gifts. I admire the way you consign grief to the past, and say you were born to be parents, as Elaine and I were. Beautifully written Beth, blessings, Roy
Typo : The new frilly (pick) dress. 2: It was the smallest I (had) been
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Something that resonated deeply with me, was the way you process your grief or you joy, it's in writing, I have many epitaphs and tributes for people, when the pass or other events, because, like you, I'm wired that way, God knew us before time, and He wired us according to our gifts. I admire the way you consign grief to the past, and say you were born to be parents, as Elaine and I were. Beautifully written Beth, blessings, Roy
Typo : The new frilly (pick) dress. 2: It was the smallest I (had) been
Comment Written 22-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. Yes, I do believe God gives us different talents and wires us the way we are supposed to be. Thanks for pointing out the spags.
Beth
Comment from Marjon van Bruggen
Oh Beth, I am so sorry! So she didn't make it but died in the hospital. You described it all so touchingly as if it happened only yesterday. You know I like this style, of talking to your husband. That makes it even more in the here and now.
This time you made a few mistakes. May I point them out?
1. 1st. line: some words seem missing. ...and to get me, and we went back the hospital.
2. ...stepped out of my body and become (became) someone else.
3.....neighbors all seem (seemed) to know...
4. ...a lot (of) people came...
5. ...(a) week of vacation.
6.... became less acute (not: a less acute)7
7. ...Both (of) us...
Seems a lot, but those are all minor slips. Sad story, Beth.
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Oh Beth, I am so sorry! So she didn't make it but died in the hospital. You described it all so touchingly as if it happened only yesterday. You know I like this style, of talking to your husband. That makes it even more in the here and now.
This time you made a few mistakes. May I point them out?
1. 1st. line: some words seem missing. ...and to get me, and we went back the hospital.
2. ...stepped out of my body and become (became) someone else.
3.....neighbors all seem (seemed) to know...
4. ...a lot (of) people came...
5. ...(a) week of vacation.
6.... became less acute (not: a less acute)7
7. ...Both (of) us...
Seems a lot, but those are all minor slips. Sad story, Beth.
Comment Written 22-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Thank you so much Marjon, I do appreciate the review and the comments mean a lot. I'm so glad you found all those spots where I made mistakes. I'd proofed it but when I added stuff during editing i made mistakes.
Beth
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Ok, glad to help.
Comment from barbara.wilkey
I do understand. I lost an infant when he was a month and a half old. He had issues with his heart and died during surgery. I am sorry for your loss. This is well written and the emotion is strong.
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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I do understand. I lost an infant when he was a month and a half old. He had issues with his heart and died during surgery. I am sorry for your loss. This is well written and the emotion is strong.
Comment Written 22-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Thank you so much for the review Barbara. I'm sorry you had to go through this too. I know you understand.
Beth
Comment from Alcreator Litt Dear
You have crafted the series of grieves, naturally and realistically, as if you are given grieves more; but faith in God has evolved your mind, you know survival is struggling, life is changeable with ups and downs, and really you experienced changes and progression in life, you have seen many funerals, but now you have a good job; now you have learnt how to deal with grieves; well said, well done; thanks for sharing this realistic work.
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reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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You have crafted the series of grieves, naturally and realistically, as if you are given grieves more; but faith in God has evolved your mind, you know survival is struggling, life is changeable with ups and downs, and really you experienced changes and progression in life, you have seen many funerals, but now you have a good job; now you have learnt how to deal with grieves; well said, well done; thanks for sharing this realistic work.
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Comment Written 22-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Thank you for reviewing and comment on this. I appreciate it.
Beth
Comment from thaities, Rebecca V.
Those DPT shots are dangerous! I am so very sorry for you two losing Susan.
Mother lost Melanie when the cord was wrapped around her neck. Mother knew something was terribly wrong at 8-1/2 months, but the doc would do nothing. The apple will fall from the tree when it is ready." At nine months Melanie was stillborn. Mother said, "At least I have a baby in /heaven."
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reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Those DPT shots are dangerous! I am so very sorry for you two losing Susan.
Mother lost Melanie when the cord was wrapped around her neck. Mother knew something was terribly wrong at 8-1/2 months, but the doc would do nothing. The apple will fall from the tree when it is ready." At nine months Melanie was stillborn. Mother said, "At least I have a baby in /heaven."
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Comment Written 22-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. So you lost a sister as well. I'm sure that was hard for your Mom when she knew something needed to be done.
Beth
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It was very hard for Mother.
I was 16 and decided to make Parker House Rolls to cheer her up after she came home. Twenty years later she would say, "I can still smell and taste those rolls!"
Comment from lyenochka
Oh Beth, I'm grieving with you now. How horrible it was for you to lose this precious baby because of a vaccination that was supposed to help protect her! It must of been so hard for you to write this, remembering. I totally understand you not grieving outwardly in front of people. You must have felt numb by the weight of the grief. And I also understand how a trivial peek at the casket could set your husband off because he was grieving, too. I also understand that God was with you - even providing the grave site ahead of time.
"Susan had died on good Friday. " (Good Friday)
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Oh Beth, I'm grieving with you now. How horrible it was for you to lose this precious baby because of a vaccination that was supposed to help protect her! It must of been so hard for you to write this, remembering. I totally understand you not grieving outwardly in front of people. You must have felt numb by the weight of the grief. And I also understand how a trivial peek at the casket could set your husband off because he was grieving, too. I also understand that God was with you - even providing the grave site ahead of time.
"Susan had died on good Friday. " (Good Friday)
Comment Written 22-Mar-2020
reply by the author on 22-Mar-2020
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Thank you so much for the review. Those were dark days in our life. It seems strange time traveling back and remembering how I felt then. I'm glad you caught the Good Friday thing.
Beth I really appreciate the six stars.
