Remembering Yesterday
Viewing comments for Chapter 133 "Dealing With Divorce"A widow's journey into her relationship with her
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Comment from mermaids
You must have been so proud when your son became a chiropractor. Divorce is so common in today's world but it is a hard change to go through. Your children have kept you busy.
reply by the author on 10-Aug-2021
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You must have been so proud when your son became a chiropractor. Divorce is so common in today's world but it is a hard change to go through. Your children have kept you busy.
Comment Written 09-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 10-Aug-2021
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Thank you for the review and comment. Yes it was good to have Don out of school but it would be a while before he had a successful practice. Yes my children had a way of keeping our heads in a spin.
Beth
Comment from Judy Lawless
Hi Beth. Dealing with a family divorce is never easy, but I think it needs to be worked out by the people involved so there won't be as many hard feelings down the road. Of course, as a parent it's hard to not offer advice. It's nice that Don managed to do a great job with the fixer-upper.
Well written.
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2021
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Hi Beth. Dealing with a family divorce is never easy, but I think it needs to be worked out by the people involved so there won't be as many hard feelings down the road. Of course, as a parent it's hard to not offer advice. It's nice that Don managed to do a great job with the fixer-upper.
Well written.
Comment Written 08-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2021
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Thank you Judy. When we realized Carol intended to do whatever she planned to do, we backed off, but Carol allowed her self to be taken advantage off because she believed by being so self sacrificing he would beg her to come back. I think she later regretted not listening to what her friends and everyone else was telling her. His next three divorces didn't go that smoothly.
I really appreciate your comments and that you are continuing to read my story.
Beth
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Wow, I?m sorry to hear that, Beth. He had three more divorces???
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Yes, 3 more and now he is living with a girl that he isn't married to. Now he wants to be friends again. He's on my facebook. LOL
Comment from amahra
I haven't read them all but always enjoy reading your writing about your awesome life with your husband. He seemed to have left you wonderful times and memories of your lives together.
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2021
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I haven't read them all but always enjoy reading your writing about your awesome life with your husband. He seemed to have left you wonderful times and memories of your lives together.
Comment Written 08-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2021
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Thank you so much for the review and the comments. My husband was a wonderful man, but he left a lot of the dealing with our children up to me. He loved them, but he didn't know how to communicate with them. I want them to know him better than they did. That is why I always include him in what I write.
Beth
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
That Glen was a selfish person, and Carol was really daft letting him have it all and still pay half the mortgage when she wasn't getting any part of it. Though, if her name remained on the deeds, she would be entitled to half the money when it sold. I bet that didn't happen, either. I'm sure you wanted to give her a good shake to wake her up. This was a really sad, but well written part in your story, Beth. Well done. :)) Sandra xx
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2021
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That Glen was a selfish person, and Carol was really daft letting him have it all and still pay half the mortgage when she wasn't getting any part of it. Though, if her name remained on the deeds, she would be entitled to half the money when it sold. I bet that didn't happen, either. I'm sure you wanted to give her a good shake to wake her up. This was a really sad, but well written part in your story, Beth. Well done. :)) Sandra xx
Comment Written 08-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2021
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Thank your Sandra, I really appreciate the review. We weren't able to change Carol's mind. I guess the name eventually got taken off the house. She doesn't even know if he ever sold it.. He has had three divorces since Carol and I'll bet the others weren't so generous.
Comment from patcelaw
I continue to be impressed with your efforts to write stories about your life with the father of your children. It is leaving a wonderful legacy.
Patricia
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2021
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I continue to be impressed with your efforts to write stories about your life with the father of your children. It is leaving a wonderful legacy.
Patricia
Comment Written 07-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 08-Aug-2021
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Thank you Patricia. I really appreciate your review and comments
Beth
Comment from Carmen Ducharme
Reading your author notes explains everything .You are trying to keep your precious husbands memory alive and I think that this is a beautiful thing you are doing for your children .Thank you for sharing
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2021
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Reading your author notes explains everything .You are trying to keep your precious husbands memory alive and I think that this is a beautiful thing you are doing for your children .Thank you for sharing
Comment Written 06-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2021
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Thank you Carmen. I realize without explaining what I'm doing in my notes, new readers wouldn't get what this was all about. I'm glad you understand, and I appareciate the review.
Beth
Comment from Mary Kay Bonfante
Divorce is such a sad and tragic thing, especially when it happens after a couple gives so many years of their life together to a marriage. I have always believed that a marriage is something that has a life of its own, separate and apart from the lives of each person involved, and that was why Jesus came out so strongly against it. There are some situations or conditions that a marriage can't survive, and sometimes a marriage just seems to die. It almost seems like theirs hardly got off the ground. It almost makes one wonder what motivated them to get married, to begin with. It's so sad that the divorce made Carol feel like such a failure. I hope she eventually overcame that.
Errors and suggestions:
Connie was still grieving over her Christmas break-up with Lenny,
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Connie was still grieving over her Christmas breakup with Lenny,
because we had spent of lot of money getting her back in college for the one class.
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because we had spent a lot of money getting her back in college for the one class.
we settled on a little town in the North Carolina mountains we'd heard about but never visited.
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we settled on a little town in the North Carolina mountains we'd heard about, but never visited.
and I was amazed that I had still had a job there.
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and I was amazed that I still had a job there.
and she would pay off half of the debts he had made.
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and she would pay off half of the debts he had incurred.
and he would likely want her back.
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and instead, she felt that he would likely want her back.
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It's great that Don finally graduated, after all his hard work in the Life Chiropractic College, and his other efforts at an education and a career, which he embarked upon before that. I hope he was successful.
I hope you didn't have to stay at that job for too much longer. It doesn't sound like a pleasant place to work!
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2021
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Divorce is such a sad and tragic thing, especially when it happens after a couple gives so many years of their life together to a marriage. I have always believed that a marriage is something that has a life of its own, separate and apart from the lives of each person involved, and that was why Jesus came out so strongly against it. There are some situations or conditions that a marriage can't survive, and sometimes a marriage just seems to die. It almost seems like theirs hardly got off the ground. It almost makes one wonder what motivated them to get married, to begin with. It's so sad that the divorce made Carol feel like such a failure. I hope she eventually overcame that.
Errors and suggestions:
Connie was still grieving over her Christmas break-up with Lenny,
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Connie was still grieving over her Christmas breakup with Lenny,
because we had spent of lot of money getting her back in college for the one class.
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because we had spent a lot of money getting her back in college for the one class.
we settled on a little town in the North Carolina mountains we'd heard about but never visited.
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we settled on a little town in the North Carolina mountains we'd heard about, but never visited.
and I was amazed that I had still had a job there.
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and I was amazed that I still had a job there.
and she would pay off half of the debts he had made.
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and she would pay off half of the debts he had incurred.
and he would likely want her back.
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and instead, she felt that he would likely want her back.
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It's great that Don finally graduated, after all his hard work in the Life Chiropractic College, and his other efforts at an education and a career, which he embarked upon before that. I hope he was successful.
I hope you didn't have to stay at that job for too much longer. It doesn't sound like a pleasant place to work!
Comment Written 06-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 07-Aug-2021
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Thank you so much for the review and you excellent help. I wish Carol would have listened to Don when he tried to talk her out of marrying Glen. He realized Carol didn't really love Glen. She felt he needed her. Once the divorce was behind her she realized she was happier and than when they were married. A loveless marriage can't make anyone happy.
Beth
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That's so true, Beth. Many young people do rush into marriage. I don't understand the reasons, but it would be interesting to learn why. It sometimes works out, but not always. I'm glad she was happier later. God bless you. Love, Mary Kay xoxo
Comment from MAMONIA
Talk about family drama...in this case, it is ongoing. It would help if you had a lot of stamina to put up with all this. Carol should never have let you even talk to Glen. It puts you in the middle, which is a catastrophe.
It happens in families a lot, and it wasn't easy for me to move in with my mom after being married for 16 years. But mom's home is a safe place for a new divorcee. You are so open and loving.
God bless.
Marie
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2021
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Talk about family drama...in this case, it is ongoing. It would help if you had a lot of stamina to put up with all this. Carol should never have let you even talk to Glen. It puts you in the middle, which is a catastrophe.
It happens in families a lot, and it wasn't easy for me to move in with my mom after being married for 16 years. But mom's home is a safe place for a new divorcee. You are so open and loving.
God bless.
Marie
Comment Written 06-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2021
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Thanks Marie, Carol wouldn't have let me talk to Glen if she had been home with the call came. It is hard to stay out of these things when you feel your daughter is being taken advantage of big time. This is one of the ways I see my mother coming out in me. She could never stay out of anything. I've finally learned to not get involved. Thank you so much for the six stars.
Beth
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
Heartbreaking about the divorce--I can identify with her sense of shame at her "failure." Well done!
He said he didn't plan to see us [OMIT COMMA] when he came up later to bring the small waterbed and one chair she was keeping.
[undiciplined=>UNDISCIPLINED]
she had never loved him the way a wife should love [their=>HER] husband.
Connie was still grieving over her Christmas [break up=>BREAK-UP]
Shane and J.P were names [OMIT: which] we heard mentioned often.
Since going to Florida was out, we settled on a little town in the North Carolina mountains [OMIT COMMA] we'd heard about but never visited.
The girl [OMIT COMMA] the plant manager had moved from the art department and asked me to train [OMIT COMMA] was not a pleasant person to work with.
He and Kimberly were planning to sell the house and move back to Tennessee [OMIT COMMA] before he set up a practice.
Also in June, Connie celebrated her twentieth birthday. Lately, she was having a lot of problems with [reoccurring=>RECURRING] fever
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2021
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Heartbreaking about the divorce--I can identify with her sense of shame at her "failure." Well done!
He said he didn't plan to see us [OMIT COMMA] when he came up later to bring the small waterbed and one chair she was keeping.
[undiciplined=>UNDISCIPLINED]
she had never loved him the way a wife should love [their=>HER] husband.
Connie was still grieving over her Christmas [break up=>BREAK-UP]
Shane and J.P were names [OMIT: which] we heard mentioned often.
Since going to Florida was out, we settled on a little town in the North Carolina mountains [OMIT COMMA] we'd heard about but never visited.
The girl [OMIT COMMA] the plant manager had moved from the art department and asked me to train [OMIT COMMA] was not a pleasant person to work with.
He and Kimberly were planning to sell the house and move back to Tennessee [OMIT COMMA] before he set up a practice.
Also in June, Connie celebrated her twentieth birthday. Lately, she was having a lot of problems with [reoccurring=>RECURRING] fever
Comment Written 05-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2021
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Thank you so much for the review and help with the commas, etc. I wonder if some of the rules have changed since I was in school. I used to make straight As in English. I know my spelling is slipping.
Beth
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I'm not a comma expert. I know (and occasionally break) some rules--as for editing, I refrain from "correcting" unless a comma is needed (or should be deleted) to provide balance/avoid confusion (or where the pause is unnatural).
Comment from Gert sherwood
Beth, your chapter in the book Remembering Yesterday
Dealing With Divorce
I found well done telling us readers of all the achievements they all made were very interesting like when Don graduated from Life College and was officially a Chiropractor. And Carol had her tonsils removed in her early twenties. I recall when our oldest daughter had her taken out when she was only three.
Gert
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2021
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Beth, your chapter in the book Remembering Yesterday
Dealing With Divorce
I found well done telling us readers of all the achievements they all made were very interesting like when Don graduated from Life College and was officially a Chiropractor. And Carol had her tonsils removed in her early twenties. I recall when our oldest daughter had her taken out when she was only three.
Gert
Comment Written 05-Aug-2021
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2021
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Thank you Gert, I really appreciate your reviews and comments. At least a couple of good things happened in this one and although some of it was not so good.
Beth
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You are most welcome Beth
Gert
