Remembering Yesterday
Viewing comments for Chapter 41 "Live-Style Changes In the Making"A widow's journey into her relationship with her
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Comment from Rosemary Everson1
The transitions of changing school and church is a challenge in itself. Your children adapted well. Evidently they were good students so it was not hard for them to learn and find new friends.
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2020
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The transitions of changing school and church is a challenge in itself. Your children adapted well. Evidently they were good students so it was not hard for them to learn and find new friends.
Comment Written 30-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2020
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They were still pretty young. The chuch school wouldn't have let the twins start at five like they did in public school. This was their second year in school and they did better in a small school.
Comment from Spitfire
We bought a split-level house for $13000 in the late fifties. I loved it, but my parents sold it for a lesser house so we could afford college. I loved the bit where you pulled up tile!
You seem attuned to the religious atmosphere whether in church or on radio. What did you think about the quality of education your children received?
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2020
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We bought a split-level house for $13000 in the late fifties. I loved it, but my parents sold it for a lesser house so we could afford college. I loved the bit where you pulled up tile!
You seem attuned to the religious atmosphere whether in church or on radio. What did you think about the quality of education your children received?
Comment Written 10-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 10-Jun-2020
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Thank you for the review and comments. As to the education they received in the church school, it was great when they were still young. The school was small and they got a lot of individual attention. After they reached early teens, I was less pleased. They did well academical when transferring to a public school so they were getting a decent education, but I just had some problems with people on the school board. There was a period when they left home to go to a boarding school. I had too little control so that didn't work out well.
Comment from estory
The attention to detail is what impressed me about the writing here. you really go into the smallest details of experiences of tensions at work, tensions in church, and tensions in moving and building a house. We see these minute events as shaping a larger whole, constructing the personality of the integrated relationship you find yourself in. It has the feeling of being a bit disjointed, in that these are wildly disparate experiences that seem in some ways unrelated. Maybe a little more focus or splitting these experiences into separate chapters might help it. estory
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2020
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The attention to detail is what impressed me about the writing here. you really go into the smallest details of experiences of tensions at work, tensions in church, and tensions in moving and building a house. We see these minute events as shaping a larger whole, constructing the personality of the integrated relationship you find yourself in. It has the feeling of being a bit disjointed, in that these are wildly disparate experiences that seem in some ways unrelated. Maybe a little more focus or splitting these experiences into separate chapters might help it. estory
Comment Written 09-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2020
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Thank you so much for the review and for the comments. For a while I was putting an explanation in for new readers as to why it has to be a lot of disjointed paragraphs and I shouldn't have discontinued doing that. It is more like a grouping of everything that happened with in a certain time frame sort like a diary. Sometimes every paragraph is like a different glimpse into my life. I understand why you would feel that. I have other writing where I make a larger story of one event but this has to be the way I'm doing it.
Beth
Comment from Ulla
Wow, Beth, a lot is going on in this chapter and it is a big thing to have a new house build from scratch. I can so identify with it.My first husband and I renovated two old houses during our marriage, and we did it ourselves. I've roofed a house twice with my daughters father so I know what you mean. And I built a new house with my ex-husband here in Spain. It's still not finished, one of the reasons why I got divorsed. So yes, I can sympathise. But at least, you had builders to do the work. I love your story. So what now? Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2020
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Wow, Beth, a lot is going on in this chapter and it is a big thing to have a new house build from scratch. I can so identify with it.My first husband and I renovated two old houses during our marriage, and we did it ourselves. I've roofed a house twice with my daughters father so I know what you mean. And I built a new house with my ex-husband here in Spain. It's still not finished, one of the reasons why I got divorsed. So yes, I can sympathise. But at least, you had builders to do the work. I love your story. So what now? Ulla:)))
Comment Written 08-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2020
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You amaze me. I would never have picked you as someone who could roof a house. The most I've ever done to a house is paint. Thanks so much for the review and coments.
Beth
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I've done a lot of things in my life, and building is certainly one of them. Something, I did enjoy. I have some funny stories I'll have to share on this site one day. I so enjoy reading your story and life with your husband. xx
Comment from Patty Palmer
I enjoyed reading this. I see you say you sound as if you are talking to your deceased husband because you want your children to know the two of you as you were. That shouldn't cause a problem.
Have a great day!
Patty
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2020
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I enjoyed reading this. I see you say you sound as if you are talking to your deceased husband because you want your children to know the two of you as you were. That shouldn't cause a problem.
Have a great day!
Patty
Comment Written 08-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2020
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Thank you Potty, I appreciate you reading this and commenting.
Beth
Comment from Mistydawn
I do hope it turns out the way you guys hoped it would. I know $30,000 was a lot of money then, but nowadays it wouldn't even be enough to build a shed. Times have sure changed. I think I would've ripped out the floor too. After all, it's your house, you should get what you want. This piece is well-written very interesting, I look forward to reading more.
reply by the author on 07-Jun-2020
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I do hope it turns out the way you guys hoped it would. I know $30,000 was a lot of money then, but nowadays it wouldn't even be enough to build a shed. Times have sure changed. I think I would've ripped out the floor too. After all, it's your house, you should get what you want. This piece is well-written very interesting, I look forward to reading more.
Comment Written 07-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 07-Jun-2020
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I'm surprised at how many women would have done as I did with the floor. My husband thought I was nuts. We were pleased with the house but the builder felt he had underbid and didn't make the money he hoped to make. Money went a lot further in those day. Minimum wage was a dollar and hour. Everything was cheaper.
Thanks so much for the review and comments.
Beth
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Wouldn't it be great if we could pay those prices but still make what we do today?
Comment from Ben Colder
Sounds like my Mary would do about the flooring. Yep, had three in Christian education at the same time. Glad I made good money back then.
I am enjoying your story brings back fond memories. I had a radio ministry but never asked for a dime. I made plenty money at the time God had taken care of that.
You sound like a typical southern American family at the time.
Best to you Beth.
reply by the author on 07-Jun-2020
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Sounds like my Mary would do about the flooring. Yep, had three in Christian education at the same time. Glad I made good money back then.
I am enjoying your story brings back fond memories. I had a radio ministry but never asked for a dime. I made plenty money at the time God had taken care of that.
You sound like a typical southern American family at the time.
Best to you Beth.
Comment Written 07-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 07-Jun-2020
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Thank you Chuck. I think were were pretty typical. I couldn't convince my kids of that. They thought we were oddballs, out of line with everyone else. A lot of women claimed they too would have pulled up the tile. A Christian education is expensive. It got really expensive when I had another child in school and the older three were in collage, but like you said God blessed us with enough to meet our needs.
Betj
Comment from Mary Kay Bonfante
Thank you for sharing another memorable chapter in the life of your growing family. You had so many things to juggle -- home, children, church, building a new home, and a very challenging job!
There were some errors, but I was unable to list them all because of a glitch in the software. Except for the first one, every time I tried to copy a sentence, I Iost the ability to control the highlighting. Maybe I will go back over it at a future date, if it's working right.
This was the only one I could fix:
Since our marriage in '56, we've in Jackson.
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Since our marriage in '56, we've lived in Jackson.
It looks like things are going to get more and more interesting, with a new church, a home in progress, a small school and changes at work. I love the part where you tore up all the inferior tiles, on your own!
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At home, you had been working on house plans while I was in Nashville and was anxious to get some bids
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At home, you had been working on house plans while I was in Nashville and were anxious to get some bids
There were three bedrooms and a bath upstairs, the living/dining combination and the kitchen and entrance foyer would be the main level.
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There were three bedrooms and a bath upstairs; the living/dining combination and the kitchen and entrance foyer would be on the main level.
As often happens, some people become dissatisfied with the minister and start rumors, and soon the congregation is divided, with some wanting to split off and start a new church.
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As often happens, some people became dissatisfied with the minister and started rumors. Soon the congregation was divided, with some wanting to split off and start a new church.
During the two weeks I was away, You had found a religion program on the radio that you liked.
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During the two weeks I was away, you had found a religion program on the radio that you liked.
In some ways. it was more like some of the doctrine Iā??d grown up with.
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In some ways, it was more like some of the doctrine Iā??d grown up with.
Around this time, one of motherā??s cousins...
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Around this time, one of Motherā??s cousins...
[you capitalized "Mother" earlier in the chapter]
Mississippi was not a place where there were a lot of Catholics, and calling a priest, Father, seemed very strange to us.
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Mississippi was not a place where there were a lot of Catholics, and calling a priest, "Father," seemed very strange to us.
reply by the author on 07-Jun-2020
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Thank you for sharing another memorable chapter in the life of your growing family. You had so many things to juggle -- home, children, church, building a new home, and a very challenging job!
There were some errors, but I was unable to list them all because of a glitch in the software. Except for the first one, every time I tried to copy a sentence, I Iost the ability to control the highlighting. Maybe I will go back over it at a future date, if it's working right.
This was the only one I could fix:
Since our marriage in '56, we've in Jackson.
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Since our marriage in '56, we've lived in Jackson.
It looks like things are going to get more and more interesting, with a new church, a home in progress, a small school and changes at work. I love the part where you tore up all the inferior tiles, on your own!
HERE ARE THE NEW EDITS:
the shrinking and expanding of the paper due to
temperature changes.
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the shrinking and expanding of the paper due to temperature changes.
[the unnecessary line break may be hidden, and not obvious when you copy the text, but it's there and needs to be deleted]
At home, you had been working on house plans while I was in Nashville and was anxious to get some bids
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At home, you had been working on house plans while I was in Nashville and were anxious to get some bids
There were three bedrooms and a bath upstairs, the living/dining combination and the kitchen and entrance foyer would be the main level.
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There were three bedrooms and a bath upstairs; the living/dining combination and the kitchen and entrance foyer would be on the main level.
As often happens, some people become dissatisfied with the minister and start rumors, and soon the congregation is divided, with some wanting to split off and start a new church.
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As often happens, some people became dissatisfied with the minister and started rumors. Soon the congregation was divided, with some wanting to split off and start a new church.
During the two weeks I was away, You had found a religion program on the radio that you liked.
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During the two weeks I was away, you had found a religion program on the radio that you liked.
In some ways. it was more like some of the doctrine Iā??d grown up with.
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In some ways, it was more like some of the doctrine Iā??d grown up with.
Around this time, one of motherā??s cousins...
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Around this time, one of Motherā??s cousins...
[you capitalized "Mother" earlier in the chapter]
Mississippi was not a place where there were a lot of Catholics, and calling a priest, Father, seemed very strange to us.
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Mississippi was not a place where there were a lot of Catholics, and calling a priest, "Father," seemed very strange to us.
Comment Written 06-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 07-Jun-2020
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Thank you so much for the review and comment and for catching the error. I'll try reading it again since you say there are more errors. You can always spot things other's overlook so I'm sorry about the glitch. I really appreciate the six stars.
Beth
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Hi Beth. You're very welcome. I went back and the glitch was still there, but I found that if I highlighted the text very, very slowly and carefully, I could avoid selecting huge chunks of text. So you'll be happy to know, that I was able to address the errors. God bless and be well. - Mary Kay xoxo
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
Gripping story--as always, I am impatient for the next chapter! Your boss is a piece of work, as they say--still insists on cheaping out despite your knowledge gained. Love the bit about your ripping up those tiles--I'd have done the same! Cheers. LIZ
reply by the author on 07-Jun-2020
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Gripping story--as always, I am impatient for the next chapter! Your boss is a piece of work, as they say--still insists on cheaping out despite your knowledge gained. Love the bit about your ripping up those tiles--I'd have done the same! Cheers. LIZ
Comment Written 06-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 07-Jun-2020
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Thank you so much Liz for continuing to follow my story and comment. I'll deal with my boss in the next chapter.
Beth
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Can't wait to see how you "deal with" the dick.
Comment from Suzanna Ray
Dear Beth, I would title this chapter "Decisions Decisions." and you had to make many, in very critical areas of your life.
This chapter will be of great vale to your great- grandchildren ( not because of the decisions you made ) but because it demonstrates how important it is that husband and wife make those decisions together.
reply by the author on 06-Jun-2020
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Dear Beth, I would title this chapter "Decisions Decisions." and you had to make many, in very critical areas of your life.
This chapter will be of great vale to your great- grandchildren ( not because of the decisions you made ) but because it demonstrates how important it is that husband and wife make those decisions together.
Comment Written 06-Jun-2020
reply by the author on 06-Jun-2020
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That is a good title. I might just change it. I appreciate you comments and review and I hope my ggrandchildren will like it.
Beth
