Remembering Yesterday
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Comment from Raffaelina Lowcock
Your life sounds pretty normal. The interaction that your father had with Don must have been disturbing. It is strange how some people are unable to cope with certain things, in life. Of all your children Don is the most interesting. He seems to be grappling with problems of one sort or the other at various times in his life. It isn't easy for a boy with only sisters.
I've been privy to a few men that have grown up in those circumstances and it does seem a problem.
Ralf
reply by the author on 18-Oct-2020
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Your life sounds pretty normal. The interaction that your father had with Don must have been disturbing. It is strange how some people are unable to cope with certain things, in life. Of all your children Don is the most interesting. He seems to be grappling with problems of one sort or the other at various times in his life. It isn't easy for a boy with only sisters.
I've been privy to a few men that have grown up in those circumstances and it does seem a problem.
Ralf
Comment Written 18-Oct-2020
reply by the author on 18-Oct-2020
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Thank you so much for going back and reading some of these earlier stories. I'm glad I was a girl or I'm sure my father would have been hard for me to deal with. Don as a young boy did seem to have a lot of problems. He's always been a little different. Some of the girls gave me more problems as the grew.
Beth
Comment from LisaMay
Your family saga makes such interesting reading. It is populated with characters whose personalities come to life through remembered situations. Finding out later what was happening in the children's lives back then gives you a chance for some analysis. The story of the school bully dying of cancer and the prayer that might have caused it is a gripping aspect.
reply by the author on 15-Sep-2020
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Your family saga makes such interesting reading. It is populated with characters whose personalities come to life through remembered situations. Finding out later what was happening in the children's lives back then gives you a chance for some analysis. The story of the school bully dying of cancer and the prayer that might have caused it is a gripping aspect.
Comment Written 14-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 15-Sep-2020
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Thank you so much for the review and the great comment. I do believe a lot of what happens to us as children have a lasting impact on our lives.
Beth
Comment from Bill Schott
This is a terrific method to preserve that intimate capture of family history in a conversational tone. The events come through with analysis and candor that will be appreciated by those who read it later. So neat.
reply by the author on 14-Sep-2020
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This is a terrific method to preserve that intimate capture of family history in a conversational tone. The events come through with analysis and candor that will be appreciated by those who read it later. So neat.
Comment Written 14-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 14-Sep-2020
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Again, I very pleased that you have reviewed this and you think it is worthwhile idea. My children are cheering me on and I'm grateful to all the others who are reading it with approval. You've been very generous with those sixes, and I really appreciate that.
Beth
Comment from Ulla
Hi Beth, so much is happening in your children's life at this stage. They are all learning to grow up, and that is never easy. So much to learn and so much to assimilate. You write this so very well. It's a joy to read. Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 13-Sep-2020
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Hi Beth, so much is happening in your children's life at this stage. They are all learning to grow up, and that is never easy. So much to learn and so much to assimilate. You write this so very well. It's a joy to read. Ulla:)))
Comment Written 13-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 13-Sep-2020
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Thank you so much Ulla. I always appreciate your reviews and comments.
Beth
Comment from Mary Kay Bonfante
Your chapter is aptly named! You've gone into great and excellent detail about family relationships. Not too many revisions, but I will return with them later. You have my attention, as always!
reply by the author on 13-Sep-2020
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Your chapter is aptly named! You've gone into great and excellent detail about family relationships. Not too many revisions, but I will return with them later. You have my attention, as always!
Comment Written 13-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 13-Sep-2020
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I'm always delighted to see your smiling face pop up in my reviews. I really appreciate you. Thank you for those beautiful stars and for helping me with the rough spots.
Beth
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You're so very welcome, Beth. I mean to return to do a more complete review, but have had an unusually busy week... not my cup of tea! Always a pleasure to read and review your stories. Love and blessings, Mary Kay xoxo
Comment from barbara.wilkey
Once again, I enjoyed reading your memoirs. My father had a horrible temper, but after he blew up he would always tells us/remind us how much he loved us. I do understand what you're saying. Thank you for sharing.
reply by the author on 12-Sep-2020
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Once again, I enjoyed reading your memoirs. My father had a horrible temper, but after he blew up he would always tells us/remind us how much he loved us. I do understand what you're saying. Thank you for sharing.
Comment Written 12-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 12-Sep-2020
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Thank you Barbara, I really appreciate the review and comments.
Kids can make you feel like raising your voice to get their attention. My Dad had a bad temper but he calmed down as he got older. My husband didn't lose lose his temper often and the he felt bad if he raised his voice. He also had much better control as he aged.
Beth
Comment from lyenochka
Some very interesting stories here all woven together. Thanks for sharing!
Oh poor Don! I feel sorry for him having to live those two weeks with your Dad. Lol. God knew your dad couldn't handle a son.
It's amazing how God provides! Wonderful that your mother would sew for the kids. My mother sewed lots of dresses for my older daughter and her daughters now use them.
What a spiritual torment that Don went through as such a tender age! Did he finally tell you later? It's sad that he couldn't share that he was being bullied. I guess he was like your husband in keeping things to himself.
You were wise to make sure that the "sun did not set on anger!" I can't believe his parents lived a whole year without talking to one another!
reply by the author on 12-Sep-2020
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Some very interesting stories here all woven together. Thanks for sharing!
Oh poor Don! I feel sorry for him having to live those two weeks with your Dad. Lol. God knew your dad couldn't handle a son.
It's amazing how God provides! Wonderful that your mother would sew for the kids. My mother sewed lots of dresses for my older daughter and her daughters now use them.
What a spiritual torment that Don went through as such a tender age! Did he finally tell you later? It's sad that he couldn't share that he was being bullied. I guess he was like your husband in keeping things to himself.
You were wise to make sure that the "sun did not set on anger!" I can't believe his parents lived a whole year without talking to one another!
Comment Written 12-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 12-Sep-2020
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Thank for the review and great comments. Yes, my poor son did have some rather bad days in this post. He told us many years later about the boy and his guilt. I guess he'd realized by that time he didn't cause his death. When I knew my husband's parents, I found it hard to believe they had gone a year without speaking as well. Apparently they continued to live together, but would tell their children to relay the message when they had something they needed the other to know. I couldn't have lived like that.
Beth
Comment from thaities, Rebecca V.
Great post.
Noticed one typo:
Someone from the scholl (school) called and asked me to meet them at the emergency room.
reply by the author on 12-Sep-2020
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Great post.
Noticed one typo:
Someone from the scholl (school) called and asked me to meet them at the emergency room.
Comment Written 11-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 12-Sep-2020
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Thank you for reviewing this and for noticing my typo. I'm glad you liked it.
Beth
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You're very welcome!
Comment from Ben Colder
Good one Beth. When raising kids things you mentioned rings very true within out household as well.
Just reading your story brings back good memories and I appreciate you much.
It seems to make my day.
Well done.
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2020
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Good one Beth. When raising kids things you mentioned rings very true within out household as well.
Just reading your story brings back good memories and I appreciate you much.
It seems to make my day.
Well done.
Comment Written 11-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2020
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Thank you for the review and great comments. I would imagine that my family is a lot like many other families. We made mistakes but we did the best we could and trusted to Lord to make something good out of feeble efforts.
Beth
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Yep!
Comment from Suzanna Ray
Dear Beth, this post is one that a neighbor would love the read because she has gone back to college to become a psychologist. She loves to come over to our house to tell us what she learned about Family dynamics in classes that week.
I am wondering how your children and grandchildren are going to be affected by family dynamics because of the COVID sequester.
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2020
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Dear Beth, this post is one that a neighbor would love the read because she has gone back to college to become a psychologist. She loves to come over to our house to tell us what she learned about Family dynamics in classes that week.
I am wondering how your children and grandchildren are going to be affected by family dynamics because of the COVID sequester.
Comment Written 11-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2020
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Thank you Suzanna. You are welcome to let you neighbor read this and maybe point out how we should have handled things. I'm sure we didn't do everything right but we can only do the best we can. Kids don't come with instructions. Some of the ways we reacted to situations had to do with the way we was brought up. Family dynamic for my three grandchildren will be different. They have grown up in a home were the parents didn't stay together. It is sad, but in spite of that, they seem to be turning our well. So far they are handling COVID better than I would have expected.
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I am glad to know all of this,
